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I have had several people contact me wanting to find out more about me, my services and to get more of an idea of what is available in the Dungeon. There is only so much I can say and do over the phone, and only so much time I can give. So following on from a suggestion from a new client I have brought in my Kinky Coffee service – first things – first it doesn’t have to be coffee, that’s just my preference, it can be any of a selection of hot drinks.
This is an opportunity for you to spend either half hour or an hour with me to get to know me, see the playspace and kit that is available and make a decision on whether or not you would like to book a full session with me.
Or if you just want to meet up with someone to discuss your own kink interests, maybe get some suggestions and tips on how to play kinky at home with your partner or friends. This is a social visit, no play, just a catch up over a brew.
After a visit to Benidorm I’ve been talking about writing this post. My intention is to continue the conversation that has taken place over the years on the attitude to the body beautiful in the fetish scene. In everyday life, newspapers, magazines, fashion shows, advertising there has been discussion on body image.
I’m not sure the fetish community, one built on different sexual tastes fully acknowledges the issue. And we as members of that community need to tackle it. Body shaming isn’t done by a community, it is done by individuals and we all need to take responsibility for that.
One of the things I love about fetish is the diverse range of people it attracts. Personally, I love the bigger guys, extra weight and bulk is definitely a good thing for me. If I see someone who I don’t find attractive I don’t mock them, I don’t try and embarrass them, I don’t make jokes about them with my friends. I just move on.
Because we are constantly shown this barrage of “the perfect man” anyone who doesn’t fit that is all too often considered an acceptable butt of the joke.
A lot of clients who come for the first time have one thing in common … nerves. Nervousness of the unknown, not sure what to expect, and what will happen. And for all those I want to share one of my favourite poems:
Come to the edge.
We might fall.
Come to the edge.
It’s too high!
COME TO THE EDGE!
And they came,
and he pushed,
And they flew.
This really sums up the experiences of so many, and hopefully inspires you as to what is possible when you take that first step to the edge by making a phone call, sending a text or email.
What are your views on the ethics of kink?
This question I, and it appears others, struggled with – in what context are they asking question. Kink in terms of a lifestyle choice and the general morality of kinky action, or the ethics by which we play?
There are those who see sex as purely for the procreation of a species, they either don’t understand or believe it can be an activity that people can participate in for the simple reason of enjoyment or pleasure. Imagine the idea of sex that doesn’t revolve around, or quite often even involve, your cock. Well that’s just crazy talk!