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The Leatherman NYC

1st October 2018

On my recent stop over in New York there was one place I had to visit. No not Big Gay Ice Cream (well not this time – though I do love their Bea Arthur ice-cream), it was Leatherman NYC.

San Francisco has Mr S, New York has Leatherman! Both amazing stores and absolute must visit for any kinkster or perv visiting the city.

Leatherman stock a variety of products from companies like Square Peg, Hanky Toys, Ox Balls, Wesco and Alpha Industries. But they also make a load of their own products, both bondage and clothing! And their leather clothing is amazing, and there is one thing that makes this store so special to visit. Their sizing!

This is something that I have complained about before about so many fetish companies, here you can buy a variety of sizes in their shirts and jeans / breeches. After spending a small fortune at Langlitz Leathers and Wesco (blog post coming in the next few days about that), I wasn’t planning on buying anything here. But that plan didn’t last very long – I’m in a store full of Leather and the smell is quite intoxicating.

I’ve been thinking of buying a new waistcoat / vest for a while, something plain and simple. A thumb through the racks and there are plenty of designs and importantly sizes of vests! And the prices are all super reasonable for the quality of the products.

No sooner had I picked one up to try out one of the excellent staff came over to assist and make sure I was ok and could find what I was looking for. And gave advice and feedback on the products – did they look right, was it the right length and size. They wanted to help me find something that fit! And that is how I ended up walking out with a gorgeous 44″ chest new waistcoat (with several larger sizes and styles available) – I couldn’t wait to wear it, and Flaming Saddles was the perfect place to go that evening in it!

For comparison on the sizing issue that most companies don’t address in Regulation and Mister B for example I couldn’t even squeeze into their largest size of waistcoat in the store.

The store has most clothing upstairs, and down a snug spiral staircase, is the large selection of quality toys and bondage kit! And the workshop where much of their amazing products are made and adjusted.

A great store, great service and well worth a visit!

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Win £250 of Ox Balls Toys

17th July 2018

Some companies just know how to make great toys! For your ass, your cock, your balls or all of the above in one glorious silicone rubbery bundle of joy. And Ox Balls have been one of the leaders of this for many years, 10 infact!

You will find several of their cock and ball toys in my dungeon, and i’m always thinking of adding more. Clonezone have been stockists for a while now so you can see them in store’s up and down the country (Birmingham of course being my nearest).

Clonezone are also supporting the biggest Leather fetish club in the world at the moment! BLUF (Breeches Leather Uniform Fetish) is a strict-dresscode website and network of like minded filthy fuckers and leather fantatics. Completely run by volunteers it has regular events all over the world, but the website has costs and is funded by donations. So CloneZone is helping encourage some donations … make a £5 donation and you could win £250 of Oxballs gear!

So get over to the BLUF Fundraiser and help this website keep going, and keep the spirit of the Leatherman in your hearts – we are a community who helps each other.

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Support my #MorningCoffee photo’s

7th March 2018

Viewers of my Twitter and Instagram feeds will probably have seen I will occasionally post a #MorningCoffee picture … I am a coffee addict! Sometimes need several to get me up and going in the morning, afternoon or evening.

Tall, fat, skinny, cappuccino, latte, instant, Nespresso, Tassimo, mocha, with wings, double shot, with sprinkles … however they come I’m always happy when I have coffee, and happiest when I have a slave sat at my boots whilst I enjoy it.

Buy Me a Coffee at ko-fi.com

This picture is one of my favourite pictures taken a few months back when we had the big snow fall, not the recent one last week. A quick cuppa before a regular slave was tied up and edged for an hour.

And now you can support me in my addiction! Click on the button above and you can now pay for a perfect cup of coffee (£3.00) on my Ko-Fi page.

I know I have many fans who can’t commit to visit me for a session, for many reasons, but they appreciate the tweets, the pictures on Instagram and the work of this blog. And now you also have a way of showing your appreciation for that … photoshoots, gear, dungeon equipment and coffee all cost money. And it is only with the support of slaves, fans and admirers that I am able to continue to do what I love.

For each coffee that is paid for another #MorningCoffee picture will be added to the gallery. If you pay for a coffee just let me know if you want to see a particular #MorningCoffee picture enjoying it … any particular gear / location you would like to see it.

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Kinky Christmas Present Ideas

13th December 2016

The festive season is well and truly upon us now! But what to buy that boy / Sir / pup / pervert in your life? Here are some of my kinky Christmas present suggestions!

Happy Kinkmas!

Short Rubber Covered Cane (£6.99)
Canes, oh the fun you can have with a simple cane and masochist! These short canes are great for using across the body, used gently a little reminder of who’s in charge or more forcefully for disciplining!

The small size allows for easy control, and packing away in an overnight bag for trips away or even a local BDSM play club.

And at just £7.00 the perfect stocking filler!

Spunk Hybrid Lube (£12.99)
Quite frankly lube makes for better sex! And good lube makes for amazing sex. Spunk lube is one of my favourite lubes on the market at the moment for fucking and play (I prefer powder lubes for Fisting and big toy ass play).

The name comes from the fact it looks like spunk, not really a selling point for me … the best bit is how well it works! It is a silicone hybrid lube so condom and rubber gear safe but also washes off super easily. And if it starts to dry a little when playing just add some water / spit / piss to get it all slippery again!

Tasteless, hypo-allergenic and all those other things you read about that sound good. But ultimately this does a great job of keeping your cock sliding in the bottoms hole! What more could you ask for in a lube.
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Top to Bottom Leathers

25th October 2016

tbt-gear01Many years ago when I first visited Birmingham Bizarre Bazzar there was a leather straitjacket.

But this wasn’t just some run of the mill straitjacket, this was an item of beauty! The quality of the leather, the finish, the craftsmanship of the design and build was amazing. And that is how I discovered Top To Bottom Leathers, a small British company specialising in bespoke quality leather bondage equipment and products. And they are now one of my two main providers of leather restraints and products.

The company was formed in 2001 and have built a large legion of fans who love their products, they no longer visit many (if any) of the fetish markets / events because their order book is usually full. And if they take on too much work the level of service they provide can only go down through delays in delivery.

All of their own products are made to order, they don’t hold stock items, so if you need a new collar tomorrow these guys won’t be able to help. But if you want a locking collar that fits perfectly you will have reached the right place.

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