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For those who wish to explore a longer session, or to have the opportunity to loose yourself in your sub headspace I have introduced ‘Slave for a Day’. This is a full days booking, usually starting around 10am and going on into the evening.
Like all of my sessions there isn’t a set structure to the day, all will be discussed in advance of your visit on how you wish to use the day and what sort of experience you would be looking for.
What would you do with at least 8 hours to spend in the company of a Dom with extensive private Dungeon? What is the fantasy you want to really explore?
Here are some suggestions, but these are only my ideas – what’s your ultimate fantasy to make reality?
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Gear is about what you feel sexy wearing, and if you feel confident and comfortable wearing it then that will show through and you will look incredibly sexy. This Snout baseball cap from Nastypig (available from UK via Clone Zone) is a personal favourite! In fact you will usually see me wearing this rather then the traditional Leatherman Muir Cap. Don’t get me wrong I love the look of the classic Muir cap, but so far haven’t found the right one for me that I think suits and looks right. And personally I find there is something sexy about baseball caps!
There is something special about the loss of control and freedom, particularly when that loss is physical and restrictive. But bondage comes in many forms so it is important to explore which appeals to you.
In some ways, the hardest!
No physical restraints, just mind over body. You are given an instruction to follow, a position to stay in and you must hold it for a given time or until told otherwise. Failure can result in punishment! It can be incredibly powerful … particularly in a bar.
You are told you are always to stand 10cm behind your Master, hands behind your back. That’s it – wherever he stands, you must stand immediately behind him. At the bar ordering a drink, chatting to some of his friends, standing in line for a urinal, standing at the urinal you must always be there. He probably won’t talk to you, but he will know of your presence and that is all he needs.
You know you’re a bondage fan if you can think back to being a kid and remember all those police shows for one thing … handcuffs! You wanted nothing more than to feel those steel cuffs get locked into your wrists.
And even now they are amongst my favourite bondage gear, particularly my solid folding speedcuffs. Simple, easy to put on and very effective. There is something about the feel of cold steel against your skin knowing you can’t escape that is quite fun. Or you can go a bit further with some shackles – thick metal cuffs locked on with chain between them, add a pair to your ankles, a metal collar and more chain to link it all up. The perfect prisoner.
Many people start January with resolutions that last about a week, but some do use the new year as an opportunity / excuse to try new things. Or to think to yourself this year you are going to take that next step – whatever it may be.
And that may be booking your first visit to an Escort / ProDom. So I thought I would start the year by offering my guide to making use of a professional’s services.
One of the greatest taboo’s that probably still exists is that of paying for sex. If you use apps like Grindr, Scruff, Recon, Tinder etc you are already paying for sex with time spent searching. Your time is valuable … you can waste hours on apps trying to find a good fuck. More if you want a kinky session!
One of the great things about paying for an escort is that you get what you want and when you want it, and you won’t feel judged for what you enjoy. I have clients who visit because they have specific fetishes that they get turned on by, and it is difficult to get people who share the interest. And they don’t worry about people telling them fetish is disgusting / weird / stupid / wtf. They get to come along and have mind blowing sex without judgement.
Many years ago when I first visited Birmingham Bizarre Bazzar there was a leather straitjacket.
But this wasn’t just some run of the mill straitjacket, this was an item of beauty! The quality of the leather, the finish, the craftsmanship of the design and build was amazing. And that is how I discovered Top To Bottom Leathers, a small British company specialising in bespoke quality leather bondage equipment and products. And they are now one of my two main providers of leather restraints and products.
The company was formed in 2001 and have built a large legion of fans who love their products, they no longer visit many (if any) of the fetish markets / events because their order book is usually full. And if they take on too much work the level of service they provide can only go down through delays in delivery.
All of their own products are made to order, they don’t hold stock items, so if you need a new collar tomorrow these guys won’t be able to help. But if you want a locking collar that fits perfectly you will have reached the right place.