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Rubber, boots, suspension & miking

12th July 2022

This is a picture from slaves visit a few months back, a very memorable and enjoyable time!

A long time ago I saw a picture of another sub/slave in a similar position and always enjoyed the look of it, so when the opportunity came to recreate it I couldn’t say no.

A combination of rubber, tit pegs, suspension and milking with the Venus milker. Perfect! Of course the trick is to keep them on edge as long as possible … not always easily achieved with the milker though.

I didn’t this time but you could add to the intensity of this with say an eStim or vibrating butt plug.

Here I am using a sit suspension harness – easier to set up than the full suspension harness, and a more comfortable seated position for the legs. You just have to get the back support right which can be tricky to get right. But for scenes like this, it is a perfect solution.

Have you seen a photo or video online you find so hot you want to try to recreate it? Why not share it with me and we can see if we can make it happen for you!

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It’s not all “Yes Sir!”

4th July 2022

A lot of people assume that a session with me is all about the “yes Sir” – domination, Master / slave sub / Dom roleplay. Or it’s about pain when we talk about BDSM. It often is, but it doesn’t have to be!

Whenever I am asked what I do I describe myself as a “Professional Fetish Escort”. Some may say Pro Dom but I find that is too specific. I love domination, I love control, I love exploring people’s masochistic side with them. But that isn’t everything I do.

Now if you look through my website you see a common theme – leather and boots. These are two of my biggest gear fetishes! And they are incredibly popular with others I’m pleased to say. But I also have a lot of other gear too, or maybe it doesn’t have to involve gear – let’s just get naked and play around!

So, what do I do – what do I mean by Fetish Escort?

Well, I see my role is to help you explore your kink, your fetish … *your* sexuality and your fantasies and desires. If you want the Leather Master … great! But if you are looking for something more relaxed and maybe just want to try playing around with some mutual fun … perfect we can do that too!

For example, I’ve had people who wanted to try out a bondage chair, a sling, e-stim, or maybe see how a flogging feels. Some have just wanted to try out some gear before they bought their own … finding what a heavy leather hood, fucking machine or rubber vav-rac is like.

And we can do all of that in safe, relaxed space no “Yes Sir” required, just an open mind to see what works for you. It doesn’t always have to be fetish or kink related either.

I’m an excellent massage therapist and can give you the most amazing naked erotic massage, and these are really popular with people who maybe haven’t been with a guy before.

They just want to feel that intimate touch, and to know they are free to touch and explore too without worry about doing something wrong. These massages can be on my regular massage table or maybe the bondage table in the playroom … Some people like the idea of a little light bondage being added to add to the excitement.

Or maybe you would prefer on the bed – naked exploring each other’s bodies and talking about your fantasies.

I also like to think I can help people other aspects of themselves. I have had both male and female crossdressers and transgender visitors. I know lots of guys just love the look and feel of dressing in women’s clothes and underwear- it makes them feel sexy. But they don’t feel they can share that part of themselves with someone else.

Now there are some amazing dressing services around the country for TGirls, and they do a wonderful service! But maybe you want to explore the sexy side I can help with that!

That could just be wearing lingerie like stockings, suspenders and a bra or it can go to being a sissy sucking the cock of a 6foot 2 Leather Man or getting fucked by him with a strap-on for the ultimate pegging experience.

And of course, there are also trans guys too who want to explore their sexuality.

I’ve had guys visit who are incredibly confident in themselves but didn’t feel 100% confident in asking for the sex they wanted or how to explore it.

So yeah, it can be domination and consensual abuse, or it can be just hanging out naked.

Whatever your desire… I can help you explore it without judgement, and hopefully help you make some great memories for your own wank bank.

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Updates & New Photos

18th May 2022

Wow, it is nearly the end of May already!

So the start of 2022 has not been anything like I have planned, I haven’t been able to dedicate anywhere enough time to this work or my website. It has been quite a stressful start to the year with a few false starts along the way.

But I am pleased to say things have calmed down now, sessions should now be available regularly again and I am back working on some long overdue podcasts and videos about kink, BDSM and all the fun things we can do together!

I also thought I’d share some updates that I have added to the site with some new photos! First of all, I have updated the Session Instax photo gallery.

These are some of my favourite pictures on the site – because they look amazing, but they are taken from sessions I have had (with the consent of the subject to share of course). These pictures are taken with an Instant camera, something I offer for sessions as a keepsake. They aren’t digital pics they are a version of the old Polaroid picture – the camera prints the photo directly so there are no copies! Take or destroy the picture and there are no copies anywhere!

The ones I have permission to share I scan and upload to the gallery, there are now 40 pictures in the gallery to go through – click the picture here to check them out!

This picture is part of a scene I have wanted to recreate for a while. Suspended in a sit sling, pegs on the tits and then Venus milker working a big load out of the slave’s dick and nothing they could do to stop it!

You will find several pics of slave in the gallery – suspended, strapped down, in the bondage chair and where it belongs – worshipping my tall boots.

I also recently had the absolute pleasure to meet up with the incredibly sexy and talented D81 Photo’s for some more pictures, this time here in my own playroom. You can check those pics out in the gallery and you will also find one of my all-time favourite pictures in my Leathers too.

For more regular updates follow me on Twitter.

Until next time.

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Folsom Street Fair 2019

4th October 2019

This year I returned to Folsom!

But not Berlin, which is what most people in the UK think of when I mention Folsom. I returned to the original San Francisco Folsom Street Fair, my 4th visit to this iconic event. The worlds largest leather/kink event attracting around 250,000 visitors (for reference that is ten times larger then Folsom Europe).

I’ve never done Folsom East or Folsom Berlin so cannot compare the events, but I know a lot of my European friends have never done Folsom, so I will give you my guide on what to expect and what is there.

Folsom is very much a mixed event – different kinks, fetishes, fashions, gear, sexes, genders all on display! And that for me is what makes it so great – the huge spectrum of people who attend.

And with that many people attending it needs a lot of space – 13 city blocks near the centre of SF! People say it gets busy … really busy, but I think first-timers can often underestimate just how rammed it can be. By the time I left mid-afternoon the queues to get in were stretching over two blocks! Some of the popular areas of the fair were packed, if you don’t like crowds definitely get in early!

There is no ‘ticket fee’ for entering the fair, just a requested donation. If you donate and get a sticker to wear your drinks are $2 cheaper! The suggested donation on entry is $10 – $15, and to make life easier the volunteers accept cash or debit/credit card.

Folsom Street Fair Events (the organisation behind it all) in 2018 donated over $250,000 to its beneficiaries, has so far raised over $7 million since it started in 1984.

Throughout the event, there are places to get drinks at three types of bars – beer, cocktails or soft drinks. Whatever your beverage preference you can find something to enjoy, and by buying drinks you are also helping to raise further funds to support local organisations! Charitable organisations (referred to as a 501(c)3 organisation in USA) can apply to become a Beverage Partner for the event. If successful the organisation provides volunteers to staff and run a bar, and in return, their organisation receives financial support from Folsom. When you buy a pint you could be helping a local HIV charity or Rugby club for example.

In addition to the bars, there are 7 huge water towers around the site to fill up your own water bottle (free of charge), and there is also a Sunscreen Station to get and apply plenty of sunscreen – though I suspect an optional fee to have applied by a porn actor would have been another a good fundraiser.

Folsom is mostly a social event – show off your gear, get to see hot guys and girls in gear. To see some amazing demo’s – bondage, flogging etc all on display. There is more going on of course – companies selling awesome kit and gear, community organisations promoting their services. Companies you may have heard of, stands include Tykables, Grindr, Recon, Bad Dragon, Mr S Leather, Sheets of San Francisco, Boy Butter, KinkBnB, Nasty Kink Pigs and so many others!

There is a dance arena but that doesn’t interest me at all, so never ventured down into it, but it is there for those who want it. And then as modern events do now they have a ‘Main Stage’ area. It is mostly live bands, some sash queens on parade and hosts introducing everyone and keeping the crowds entertained.

I always advise people to arrive at 11 am, as I say it gets busy! And if you want to do any shopping on the stalls, play with the pups, meet some porn actors etc you need to do this before it gets crowded! This year the temperature was a little lower than previous years, I’d say around 20 – 25 oC. I was in full leathers – so very much a good thing for me! Previous years it has been mid/high 30’s! Which is really far too hot for fetish gear – but good for those who like to wear just jocks or get their cocks out (watch out for that sunburn!)

As any Leather event should have – the Bootblacks have a stand. There is a $10 fee (donation to a local charity) to book a slot and then recommended tips for the bootblacks. Because the service can take a while, and many don’t want to queue for an age they have a great ticket system. You pay your $10 donation and are given a numbered ticket, you can either wait to be called or go off around the fair and come back. Whenever a chair is free they call out for the lowest number, so if you go to the stand early in the day and head back a few hours later you are pretty much guaranteed to be sat next.

While my jeans need a decent deep clean and condition I opted to have my boots done, Unicorn boy  (u.b.) did an awesome job – and good luck with the SF Bootblack 2020 contest!

There has been much made of recently about Pride events being “family-friendly” events, and even some trying to ban Fetish gear. Folsom is very much not a family event – and nor should it be! It is an event based around fetish and sex.

The nature of the event you are going to get a lot of non-kink people who want to go and see the perverts and players. It may not be quite as debauched as it used to be, but you could still piss on people in a paddling pool, see countless guys with dicks out jerking off, see guys drinking piss directly from the source or in one video going around twitter one guy over the shoulder of another getting fisted.

Any event like this you cannot go and be surprised if your photo ends up on the Internet somewhere. On the way in they have huge signs about consent which was good to see. And we saw some excellent examples of people both following and ignoring these. For example a well endowed young lad (about late 20’s) was asked if he could have his photo taken by someone, he agreed and posed. Photographer then decided that consent meant he could grab hold of the guy’s hard dick – he was very quickly and directly corrected on that! The lad handled the situation really well, and was great to see him have the confidence to do that. Whilst gear, nudity or attendance does not give consent it is a sad fact that you must also be prepared to deal with people who don’t understand that.

And this consent issue is why I haven’t been able to share many photos from the event – it would be so hypocritical of me to do so. Be like the photo of the old dear watching the Pope go past – don’t enjoy the whole event through a lens.

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The Leatherman NYC

1st October 2018

On my recent stop over in New York there was one place I had to visit. No not Big Gay Ice Cream (well not this time – though I do love their Bea Arthur ice-cream), it was Leatherman NYC.

San Francisco has Mr S, New York has Leatherman! Both amazing stores and absolute must visit for any kinkster or perv visiting the city.

Leatherman stock a variety of products from companies like Square Peg, Hanky Toys, Ox Balls, Wesco and Alpha Industries. But they also make a load of their own products, both bondage and clothing! And their leather clothing is amazing, and there is one thing that makes this store so special to visit. Their sizing!

This is something that I have complained about before about so many fetish companies, here you can buy a variety of sizes in their shirts and jeans / breeches. After spending a small fortune at Langlitz Leathers and Wesco (blog post coming in the next few days about that), I wasn’t planning on buying anything here. But that plan didn’t last very long – I’m in a store full of Leather and the smell is quite intoxicating.

I’ve been thinking of buying a new waistcoat / vest for a while, something plain and simple. A thumb through the racks and there are plenty of designs and importantly sizes of vests! And the prices are all super reasonable for the quality of the products.

No sooner had I picked one up to try out one of the excellent staff came over to assist and make sure I was ok and could find what I was looking for. And gave advice and feedback on the products – did they look right, was it the right length and size. They wanted to help me find something that fit! And that is how I ended up walking out with a gorgeous 44″ chest new waistcoat (with several larger sizes and styles available) – I couldn’t wait to wear it, and Flaming Saddles was the perfect place to go that evening in it!

For comparison on the sizing issue that most companies don’t address in Regulation and Mister B for example I couldn’t even squeeze into their largest size of waistcoat in the store.

The store has most clothing upstairs, and down a snug spiral staircase, is the large selection of quality toys and bondage kit! And the workshop where much of their amazing products are made and adjusted.

A great store, great service and well worth a visit!

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