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I was recently asked if I would sit for a portrait, in Leather and for a painting that reflected me and was a story shared through that medium. Of course I said here, and here is the finished piece:
I love it! And I know the artist is incredibly proud of it, the way he has captured the leather is fantastic and the amount of detail is just incredible.
This is much more then just a painting of a guy in leather in his Dungeon. For me a portrait isn’t just a snapshot of the person, it should reflect them as a person and tell their story. So some of the elements of this that are important to me as were part of my journey as a Leatherman – my first leather shirt, my first piece of dungeon furniture, the first bit of gear I bought from Mister B in Amsterdam. Something from my very first visit to San Francisco and the Mr S Leather store, that is now quite important for leather history and culture, and probably quite rare now. Things that have inspired me, things that I have used in sessions, items that contain deep emotional significance for many subs (male and female) that have visited me.
There are also elements that are deeply personal, shared only between myself and the artist – some things have deep hidden meanings.
The traditional image of a leather man is both featured and updated for a more modern look that I feel more confident with. Here I am sat with my Nasty Pig Baseball Cap rather then Muir Cap as many would expect. For me the baseball cap is sexier, it gives me more confidence, it feels more a part of me.
I feel absolutely honoured to have been asked to sit for this, and am so proud of the result.
What are your views on the ethics of kink?
This question I, and it appears others, struggled with – in what context are they asking question. Kink in terms of a lifestyle choice and the general morality of kinky action, or the ethics by which we play?
There are those who see sex as purely for the procreation of a species, they either don’t understand or believe it can be an activity that people can participate in for the simple reason of enjoyment or pleasure. Imagine the idea of sex that doesn’t revolve around, or quite often even involve, your cock. Well that’s just crazy talk!
List your kinks.
The list is very long! But an outline of primary interests would be (alphabetically so they can’t be assumed to be in any preference order:
Ass play – Fucking is quite low on my interest list, doesn’t do much for me. But I love to play with a willing hole, from introducing it to the joys of ass play with just a finger or small dildo and vibrator through to huge toys, stretching and fisting. Whilst I don’t particularly enjoy fucking I do enjoy using a strap on, partly because I can choose a cock to fit the hole perfectly or just to stretch it a little as needed.
Bondage – Restriction, lack of movement, control, vulnerability. There are so many ways to explore bondage too – just a pair of handcuffs / leather cuffs, through to straight jackets, sleep sacks, bondage chairs or even suspension.
Boots – Love boots, my favourite makes are Wesco and Grinders, but also love things like rigger boots cat style boots, biker (have a pair of RST race boots).
CBT – the most precious and sensitive part of a man, and somewhere you can have so much fun playing with them! It’s quite amazing how many love having their balls abused.
Flogging – lots of people thing flogging is all about pain and marking. There is so much more to it! I have a delicious collection of floggers in a variety of hides all giving different experiences and there is so much you can do without the worry of marking the skin, no more than some redness from the warmth of the play that dissipates very quickly. I love flogging as you can go on a real journey from light gentle stroking touch to very heavy intense impact play and lots of places inbetween.
Leather – My biggest fetish, love the look, feel, smell, taste of leather.