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What do you want?

21st June 2016

I’m a big Sci-Fi fan, and one of my favourite TV shows has been Babylon 5 for a long time. Followers of the show will probably recognise the title of this post as the question Mr Morden and his associates The Shadows asked.

But a variation of this question is something that I ask all my clients, particularly those who wish to visit The Dungeon. Everyone who visits me has different interests, different desires, different needs, and is looking for something unique to them.

For many the biggest thrill and turn on from a visit to the Dungeon is the submission, the power exchange and loss of control – not knowing what is going to happen. But everyone has limits, everyone has specific fetishes and turn-ons.

And when you look at my website, my tumblr etc you will no doubt see something that excites you. I am fortunate to have a lot of furniture, equipment, toys, gadgets and lots of other fun things that can be used. But most people won’t want to use all of them!

Sir: What do you want?

Boy: Bondage Sir.

What sort of bondage – rope, restraints, chains, manacles, gags, blindfolds, hoods, heavy hoods, full body sleepsack, straight jacket? For some a heavy hood and straightjacket would be amazing but for others who are claustrophic it could bring on a panic attack!

When asked “What do you want” you need to think about what you like, what excites you, what turns you on but also what you don’t like, what scares you, what turns you immediately off.

The more information you can give me and the more I understand your desires, needs and interests the better and more exciting the session and the play! If you aren’t sure, let me know I can work through some questions, scenarios, ideas to gauge interest and put together something we will both very much enjoy!

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Of Dildo’s & Buttplug’s

13th January 2016

dildos-buttplugs
I am often asked if I have any dildos that people can try, the answer is of course not just yes but lots. Of various sizes and lengths! The picture isn’t all of them, but it shows off a good selection of them from the smallest to some of the largest!

Ass play can be amazing fun! But it takes patience and practice. If you aren’t experienced while the idea may make for an amazing wank fantasy don’t expect to go from number 1 (far left) to number 14 (far right) in your first session. Most people on a first introduction to ass play would be able to take the first four, then maybe number 5 / 6.

Dildos and ass toys make great introductions to anal play, you can start really small and slowly work up. And this slow bit is so important! The ass can give huge amounts of extraordinary pleasure, the phrase anal orgasm isn’t used without reason. But you must treat it with care and respect and never push too far in any session. If you feel pain that is when you need to stop – sometimes your really horny and want to push past it. Don’t! The body isn’t ready yet, and if you practice regularly you will progress a lot faster, and ultimately listening to your body will make it a lot more enjoyable! And of course can avoid any trips to A&E.

Of course a lot of guys want to get fucked, to experience the feeling of a guy pounding their ass. But what if their dick is too big, or you prefer a larger cock inside you? I also have a strap-on harness that fits all of the camo dildos above – great for practicing with a small dildo or for that full stretch! And of course never goes soft – so can fuck for as long as you want!

If you are more experienced you will love the final four toys from the boys over at Crackstuffers (www.crackstuffers.com) … these guys know how to make big toys for accommodating holes that are never satisfied.

And of course, as the sign says its not just about toys – fists too!

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Four Questions #2

26th July 2015

This is going to be an ongoing blog series, four questions about me and my work. If there is a question you would like to see answered please send over and I will add it to the list for a future post.

What are 5 things you can’t live without?

1) The internet
2) TiVo
3) Good friends
4) Good food
5) A positive optimistic outlook

What are your favourite condoms, lube, enemas, etc… ? Recommendations?

All depends on the activity! For anal play (be it a fingering or fisting) I always wear black Nitrile gloves. Black because they look sexy, and Nitrile as they are stronger and don’t grip the skin / hairs.

For condoms I tend to use Mates natural and king size either on dicks or toys. Then all toys are washed after each session and cleaned with a hospital grade disinfectant.

I have a few preferences on lube – for everyday lube either Liquid Silk or Super Slick .. the later tastes quite nice 😉 or for bigger toys / fisting play X-Lube or Fist Powder work amazingly well! Super super slippery, and you can mix to the desired consistency and unlike J-Lube washing after is really easy!

Or of course for fisting there is always the classic Crisco which remains a first favourite of greedy holes around the world.

Are you discreet?

100%. I never talk about my clients with anyone else, what happens is between you and I. If I am ever in a situation that I was to meet a client I would never acknowledge them or the fact they have been to see me. No records of visits are recorded or saved.

Wine or beer?

Wine, always wine over beer! I have never enjoyed any types of beers – ales, largers, bitters, stouts etc. Wine on the other hand I always enjoy – particularly a good Rioja or Malbec for a red, or Californian Chardonnay or New Zealand Sauvignon Blanc for white. If looking at bubbles Ruinart Bland de Blanc or even the superb English sparkling wine Nyetimber.

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