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Thankyou Manchester for not just a Big Weekend, but an amazing weekend! And thankyou to all my friends who were a part of it and made it so special. I last went to Manchester Pride a three or four years ago, and had quite a mixed experience of it. But was determined to make the best of it this year … it’s all in the planning.
I have quite a love / hate relationship with pride – indeed a good friend on twitter replied to a comment saying “you sound like a crotchety old man”, which is about right. I don’t really like hugely crowded places, queuing to get in a bar, or the fact that you can apparently only celebrate pride with music turned up to 11. I do enjoy a good bar with a drag DJ taking the piss out of everyone, but most of the time I’d prefer an old man boozer.
What are your views on the ethics of kink?
This question I, and it appears others, struggled with – in what context are they asking question. Kink in terms of a lifestyle choice and the general morality of kinky action, or the ethics by which we play?
There are those who see sex as purely for the procreation of a species, they either don’t understand or believe it can be an activity that people can participate in for the simple reason of enjoyment or pleasure. Imagine the idea of sex that doesn’t revolve around, or quite often even involve, your cock. Well that’s just crazy talk!
I’m a big Sci-Fi fan, and one of my favourite TV shows has been Babylon 5 for a long time. Followers of the show will probably recognise the title of this post as the question Mr Morden and his associates The Shadows asked.
But a variation of this question is something that I ask all my clients, particularly those who wish to visit The Dungeon. Everyone who visits me has different interests, different desires, different needs, and is looking for something unique to them.
For many the biggest thrill and turn on from a visit to the Dungeon is the submission, the power exchange and loss of control – not knowing what is going to happen. But everyone has limits, everyone has specific fetishes and turn-ons.
And when you look at my website, my tumblr etc you will no doubt see something that excites you. I am fortunate to have a lot of furniture, equipment, toys, gadgets and lots of other fun things that can be used. But most people won’t want to use all of them!
Sir: What do you want?
Boy: Bondage Sir.
What sort of bondage – rope, restraints, chains, manacles, gags, blindfolds, hoods, heavy hoods, full body sleepsack, straight jacket? For some a heavy hood and straightjacket would be amazing but for others who are claustrophic it could bring on a panic attack!
When asked “What do you want” you need to think about what you like, what excites you, what turns you on but also what you don’t like, what scares you, what turns you immediately off.
The more information you can give me and the more I understand your desires, needs and interests the better and more exciting the session and the play! If you aren’t sure, let me know I can work through some questions, scenarios, ideas to gauge interest and put together something we will both very much enjoy!
Sound play is amazing – imagine your cock being stimulated on both the inside as well as outside as its wanked!
This set of 8 sounds is actually 16 as they are double sided, going from the smallest at 3mm diameter up to the largest at 18mm in 1mm increments. As with ass play they require patience and practice to go up and to open up the urethra … but it can such rewarding play for those who enjoy it!
Obviously hygiene is of the utmost importance here, so you must notify me at the time of booking if you want to use the sounds. Before each appointment they are thoroughly washed and disinfected in a hospital grade sanitiser. They are only used with clean gloves, and are swapped with alcohol wipes before insertion and I use a new unopened lube specifically for sound play.