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Many people start January with resolutions that last about a week, but some do use the new year as an opportunity / excuse to try new things. Or to think to yourself this year you are going to take that next step – whatever it may be.
And that may be booking your first visit to an Escort / ProDom. So I thought I would start the year by offering my guide to making use of a professional’s services.
One of the greatest taboo’s that probably still exists is that of paying for sex. If you use apps like Grindr, Scruff, Recon, Tinder etc you are already paying for sex with time spent searching. Your time is valuable … you can waste hours on apps trying to find a good fuck. More if you want a kinky session!
One of the great things about paying for an escort is that you get what you want and when you want it, and you won’t feel judged for what you enjoy. I have clients who visit because they have specific fetishes that they get turned on by, and it is difficult to get people who share the interest. And they don’t worry about people telling them fetish is disgusting / weird / stupid / wtf. They get to come along and have mind blowing sex without judgement.
I’ve done it, spent five long days stuck inside the maze of halls that is the Spring Fair at the NEC, Birmingham. Walking from hall to hall, getting the shuttle bus around to the far side because its just so huge and paying over the odds for a crappy sandwich and cup of coffee.
So if you are visiting the West Midlands to spend a week at the UK’s largest stationary and gift show, why not make it a trip to remember and live out those fantasies.
I’m available for incalls in Wolverhampton (35mins by train from the NEC) or I offer a special outcall rate for hotels in Birmingham or at the NEC – £30 on top of my standard rates, this covers travel and parking.
I can bring just myself, a change of clothes to wear something that really gets the heart pacing (suit, sports kit, leather, rubber, biker gear, workie boots and gear, stockings and suspenders, lacey knickers – the choice is yours).
Or if you are looking for a dinner date I can recommend a host of cafe’s, restaurants and bars in Birmingham from proper boozers, the best Chinese, through to Michelin starred dinning. You choose the style and budget, and I’ll make it a night to remember.
As one client told me, he didn’t just want an escort … he wanted an experience to remember!
Ass play can be amazing fun! But it takes patience and practice. If you aren’t experienced while the idea may make for an amazing wank fantasy don’t expect to go from number 1 (far left) to number 14 (far right) in your first session. Most people on a first introduction to ass play would be able to take the first four, then maybe number 5 / 6.
Dildos and ass toys make great introductions to anal play, you can start really small and slowly work up. And this slow bit is so important! The ass can give huge amounts of extraordinary pleasure, the phrase anal orgasm isn’t used without reason. But you must treat it with care and respect and never push too far in any session. If you feel pain that is when you need to stop – sometimes your really horny and want to push past it. Don’t! The body isn’t ready yet, and if you practice regularly you will progress a lot faster, and ultimately listening to your body will make it a lot more enjoyable! And of course can avoid any trips to A&E.
Of course a lot of guys want to get fucked, to experience the feeling of a guy pounding their ass. But what if their dick is too big, or you prefer a larger cock inside you? I also have a strap-on harness that fits all of the camo dildos above – great for practicing with a small dildo or for that full stretch! And of course never goes soft – so can fuck for as long as you want!
If you are more experienced you will love the final four toys from the boys over at Crackstuffers (www.crackstuffers.com) … these guys know how to make big toys for accommodating holes that are never satisfied.
And of course, as the sign says its not just about toys – fists too!
For some sessions, particularly longer bookings, I do require a deposit paying. Also for repeated no-shows I will ask for payment in full at time of booking.
I do however understand that for reasons of confidentiality and discretion the usual methods by which such payments would usually be made (credit / debit card, bank transfer etc) may not be appropriate.
I am pleased to be able to now offer a safe, secure and fully anonymous cash payment option for deposits.
If you visit your local PayPoint store (often corner shops, news agents etc) you can buy a “PaySafeCard” (https://www.paysafecard.com/en-gb/products/paysafecard/) voucher in cash – you do not need to give your name, phone number or show any identity. The transaction is completely anonymous.
You can find your nearest PayPoint retailer on their website here: https://www.paypoint.com/en-gb
The receipt you will get from the PayPoint terminal will contain a 16 digit PIN number – a bit like a phone credit top up. Once you have this number you can call me on 07516 036 105, I can then use this to top up my account with the amount your purchased and then the deposit is complete, safe secure and anonymous.
This is going to be an ongoing blog series, four questions about me and my work. If there is a question you would like to see answered please send over and I will add it to the list for a future post.
What are you views about safe sex and / or bareback sex?
I only practice safer sex – absolutely no bareback.
I am also regularly checked and screened for HIV, Hep and all other STD’s to ensure my own personal safety and wellbeing as well as that of my clients.
I know many people prefer or will only have bareback anal sex, they each have different reasons – some don’t like the feel of condoms, some say they can’t stay hard with a condom on, some say it’s just not as much fun with a condom on. I don’t judge anyone who wants to fuck bareback / raw … I’m just not sure a lifetime of daily pills, blood tests and associated side effects just is it for a fuck. No matter how good it is.
And it is also important to remember that the only side effect is bareback sex isn’t HIV, it is countless other STI’s that can be passed on too. So please – don’t ask me to fuck without a condom.
I also use condoms on my toys, and they are all washed after use, sanitised in hospital grade disinfectant after use.
How do you like clients to feel about the experience when they leave?
I asked a client once, and all he could manage through his beaming smile was “Wow”. I like my clients to feel they have and the experience they were looking for, and ideally it surpassed their expectations.
I want them to feel they had an amazing time, experienced something special that they can remember and enjoy thinking about it.
I’m coming from work can I have a shower?
Of course, I have shower facilities and fresh clean towels for you to use before and after your session if you wish.
Whats your favourite ice cream?
Many years ago a friend told me they always ask this question on dates or in job interviews. They said everyone has a favourite, and you know it straight away – if you have to think too long or hard about it your trying to say something to impress, not what your preference is.
And for me, the answer is always Mint Choc Chip, or Ben & Jerry’s Caramel Chew Chew.