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You may have seen my Puppy Hood Visualiser on the site, which has proved popular in helping pups design their own looks!
And you, hopefully, follow me over on Instagram. One of the things that is very important on Instagram is the use hashtags, but it gets quite boring writing out lists of hash tags each time. And you ideally want to be using a variety of hashtags for each post to add exposure to your posts. And so I have now published my Kinky Instagram Hashtag Tool!
It allows you to easily create text and hashtag lists for Instagram, Twitter, Tumblr or wherever else you want to post a list of kinky hash tags. The lists I have created myself and it currently contains 322 hashtags in 6 categories, with more to be added! If you want to suggest new tags please email them over to me at firstname.lastname@example.org
So sit back, create your tags and feel free to share the link.
Better still let me know your own Instagram account!
Some companies just know how to make great toys! For your ass, your cock, your balls or all of the above in one glorious silicone rubbery bundle of joy. And Ox Balls have been one of the leaders of this for many years, 10 infact!
You will find several of their cock and ball toys in my dungeon, and i’m always thinking of adding more. Clonezone have been stockists for a while now so you can see them in store’s up and down the country (Birmingham of course being my nearest).
Clonezone are also supporting the biggest Leather fetish club in the world at the moment! BLUF (Breeches Leather Uniform Fetish) is a strict-dresscode website and network of like minded filthy fuckers and leather fantatics. Completely run by volunteers it has regular events all over the world, but the website has costs and is funded by donations. So CloneZone is helping encourage some donations … make a £5 donation and you could win £250 of Oxballs gear!
So get over to the BLUF Fundraiser and help this website keep going, and keep the spirit of the Leatherman in your hearts – we are a community who helps each other.
Mr S Leather have led the way in innovation for those into Puppy play. They had the neoprene Woof! muzzle (which I happily own), and they had some leather and rubber pup hoods and then the developed the Neoprene Puppy hood which I would say has become one of the most popular hoods on the market! It is certainly the one I see around on Twitter and at events most.
And it’s not surprising really, it is an amazing hood – super comfortable to wear, easy to drink with and keeps the mouth clear (the Woof! muzzle isn’t as good at this bit I find). And best of all, the Neoprene hood can come in custom colours … I’ve been trying to work out how many designs you could have, but quite frankly my head started to hurt so I didn’t bother. But I may come back to that one day!
The problem is deciding which of the combinations of colours you want for your inner pup, it’s quite a big thing! Has to reflect your pups personality, persona, breed may. So you want to get it right! And so to help with this I have put together a Pup Hood Visualiser on the site. I did this independently, just for something to help me design my own puppy’s look. And in doing it thought you guys may be interested to!
At the moment the visualiser only works for the Neoprene style of hood, if there is interest I can add the Leather Pup hood to it too in time and some extra features. For now, go ahead and design your own hood and order one from the team in San Francisco!
After a visit to Benidorm I’ve been talking about writing this post. My intention is to continue the conversation that has taken place over the years on the attitude to the body beautiful in the fetish scene. In everyday life, newspapers, magazines, fashion shows, advertising there has been discussion on body image.
I’m not sure the fetish community, one built on different sexual tastes fully acknowledges the issue. And we as members of that community need to tackle it. Body shaming isn’t done by a community, it is done by individuals and we all need to take responsibility for that.
One of the things I love about fetish is the diverse range of people it attracts. Personally, I love the bigger guys, extra weight and bulk is definitely a good thing for me. If I see someone who I don’t find attractive I don’t mock them, I don’t try and embarrass them, I don’t make jokes about them with my friends. I just move on.
Because we are constantly shown this barrage of “the perfect man” anyone who doesn’t fit that is all too often considered an acceptable butt of the joke.
For a long time now I’ve felt in a minority … a proud active Leatherman. But one for who the majority of the gay fetish “scene” in the UK hasn’t held much interest. I’ve always enjoyed my trips to Leather events and bars in the USA – CLAW (Cleveland Leather Annual Weekend) is a favourite event, and The Eagle in San Francisco a favourite bar.
And one of the reasons I have always enjoyed them is they have a real sense of community, of support, of brotherhood.
Something that until recently I can’t really say I have found at most events in the UK. I recently had my first visit to The Backstreet in London, what I can now see has been the UK’s only Leather bar for a long time. But that is going to form another blog post in the coming weeks.
This past weekend was the Annual General Meeting of Manchester Leathermen (MLM). The group was founded in 2012 and in 2015 merged with the Manchester Superchain, and last year I was excited to join as a member and attend my first MLM events.
Unfortunately, I have found it hard to get to as many of the regular events they host as I would like. The additional cost of a hotel (living two hours away) and free weekends lining up with events seem limited.
Even though I can’t get to many events I follow the activities of the group through their Twitter and Newsletters etc. Throughout all of this there comes a real sense of community, a group of people who support each other, who want to build something more than just another bar night.
One of the members of MLM who has helped spread the word of the group across the country and Europe is Joe King. He won Mr Leather UK 2016 and then Mr Leather Europe 2016. As a holder of both titles he has worked for the benefit of the community.
And now he is hoping to make it to International Mr Leather this May in Chicago. But attending such an event takes time and money, quite a lot of money!
One of the aspects of community I have admired from the American Leather scene is its willingness to support each other in representing their own bars, cities and organisations.
IML is an amazing event to attend, and for many it involves one thing – sex and lots of it! For others it’s cocktails, and lots of them, for others it’s about social time, shopping and discovering new friends.
For those who are attending to compete it is a very different weekend! They must attend all the formal events, rehearsals, meetings, meet and greets, interviews with judges, photo calls, press calls, networking and promotional events.
It’s busy, it’s hard work, it’s incredibly full on! In fact, most contestants usually have at least one person with them acting as their Personal Assistant. Ensuring they attend everything, are in the right place at the right time, have everything they need, their kit is ready, they eat, they sleep and hopefully get to enjoy what is a once in a lifetime opportunity.
The only time a British Leatherman has won the title of International Mr Leather was when John Pendal won in 2003. So I think its’s about time we changed that! And we also showed the rest of the kinky leathery world that the UK is working hard to build an amazing community. And quite frankly American’s love the Royal Family …
So please join me in helping Send The King to IML and make a donation to his travel fund and to put the UK on the map again at the worlds biggest gay fetish event!