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There are many different forms of impact play, and many of them will be covered in videos over the coming months, but this one is an introduction to some of my favourite paddles in the dungeon.
One of the most interesting can be the humble riding crop, small impact area, but visually very nice with its long flexible handle. And that handle, of course, means excellent reach to a boys arse while working boots for example. Cheap, light, lots of styles and a lot of fun!
In the video, I show off my Master U CBT paddle, probably one of my favourites! Small handy size with a carbon-fibre leather-covered handle. The head is double-sided, softer and padded on one and hard and smooth the other. Perfect for ballbusting or a good hard whack on the arse!
Other paddles featured include some CP implements and a smooth hard wooden paddle. All feel very different to use for the spanker and spankee – all give me great pleasure when I hear them.
In the video I also touch in marking, this is a big issue for lots of subs – they can’t / don’t want to be marked so I mention a few techniques that can be used to reduce the chances of this happening in a session. The most important is to tell me before we begin!
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I’ve said many times before that BDSM and time in the Dungeon doesn’t have to include pain, it isn’t what it is all about.
But for some it really is … and when you find those true masochistic pain pigs oh the fun to be had! There are many different ways of exploring a subs need and desire for pain, suffering and torture – spanking, flogging, canes, tit clamps, candle wax, electro / eStim are fine examples. The latter particularly so if they want to ensure no marking / bruising on the skin.
But one area of great interest to me is CBT … cock and ball torture, again perfect for inflicting anything from a mild “ouch” to severe agony without any marking. And hearing a subs muffled screams through the gag is pretty much guaranteed to get my cock rock hard!
CBT generally falls into three types of play – crushing / squeezing, stretching and hitting. Some are able to endure a lot more of one form then another, for example stretching can be taken to an extreme level where the sub is suspended by their balls! Clearly not for everyone, but it is definitely possible with experience and practice.
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The festive season is well and truly upon us now! But what to buy that boy / Sir / pup / pervert in your life? Here are some of my kinky Christmas present suggestions!
Short Rubber Covered Cane (£6.99)
Canes, oh the fun you can have with a simple cane and masochist! These short canes are great for using across the body, used gently a little reminder of who’s in charge or more forcefully for disciplining!
The small size allows for easy control, and packing away in an overnight bag for trips away or even a local BDSM play club.
And at just £7.00 the perfect stocking filler!
Spunk Hybrid Lube (£12.99)
Quite frankly lube makes for better sex! And good lube makes for amazing sex. Spunk lube is one of my favourite lubes on the market at the moment for fucking and play (I prefer powder lubes for Fisting and big toy ass play).
The name comes from the fact it looks like spunk, not really a selling point for me … the best bit is how well it works! It is a silicone hybrid lube so condom and rubber gear safe but also washes off super easily. And if it starts to dry a little when playing just add some water / spit / piss to get it all slippery again!
Tasteless, hypo-allergenic and all those other things you read about that sound good. But ultimately this does a great job of keeping your cock sliding in the bottoms hole! What more could you ask for in a lube.
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Many years ago when I first visited Birmingham Bizarre Bazzar there was a leather straitjacket.
But this wasn’t just some run of the mill straitjacket, this was an item of beauty! The quality of the leather, the finish, the craftsmanship of the design and build was amazing. And that is how I discovered Top To Bottom Leathers>, a small British company specialising in bespoke quality leather bondage equipment and products. And they are now one of my two main providers of leather restraints and products.
The company was formed in 2001 and have built a large legion of fans who love their products, they no longer visit many (if any) of the fetish markets / events because their order book is usually full. And if they take on too much work the level of service they provide can only go down through delays in delivery.
All of their own products are made to order, they don’t hold stock items, so if you need a new collar tomorrow these guys won’t be able to help. But if you want a locking collar that fits perfectly you will have reached the right place.
What are your views on the ethics of kink?
This question I, and it appears others, struggled with – in what context are they asking question. Kink in terms of a lifestyle choice and the general morality of kinky action, or the ethics by which we play?
There are those who see sex as purely for the procreation of a species, they either don’t understand or believe it can be an activity that people can participate in for the simple reason of enjoyment or pleasure. Imagine the idea of sex that doesn’t revolve around, or quite often even involve, your cock. Well that’s just crazy talk!