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Many people start January with resolutions that last about a week, but some do use the new year as an opportunity / excuse to try new things. Or to think to yourself this year you are going to take that next step – whatever it may be.
And that may be booking your first visit to an Escort / ProDom. So I thought I would start the year by offering my guide to making use of a professional’s services.
One of the greatest taboo’s that probably still exists is that of paying for sex. If you use apps like Grindr, Scruff, Recon, Tinder etc you are already paying for sex with time spent searching. Your time is valuable … you can waste hours on apps trying to find a good fuck. More if you want a kinky session!
One of the great things about paying for an escort is that you get what you want and when you want it, and you won’t feel judged for what you enjoy. I have clients who visit because they have specific fetishes that they get turned on by, and it is difficult to get people who share the interest. And they don’t worry about people telling them fetish is disgusting / weird / stupid / wtf. They get to come along and have mind blowing sex without judgement.
I’m a big Sci-Fi fan, and one of my favourite TV shows has been Babylon 5 for a long time. Followers of the show will probably recognise the title of this post as the question Mr Morden and his associates The Shadows asked.
But a variation of this question is something that I ask all my clients, particularly those who wish to visit The Dungeon. Everyone who visits me has different interests, different desires, different needs, and is looking for something unique to them.
For many the biggest thrill and turn on from a visit to the Dungeon is the submission, the power exchange and loss of control – not knowing what is going to happen. But everyone has limits, everyone has specific fetishes and turn-ons.
And when you look at my website, my tumblr etc you will no doubt see something that excites you. I am fortunate to have a lot of furniture, equipment, toys, gadgets and lots of other fun things that can be used. But most people won’t want to use all of them!
Sir: What do you want?
Boy: Bondage Sir.
What sort of bondage – rope, restraints, chains, manacles, gags, blindfolds, hoods, heavy hoods, full body sleepsack, straight jacket? For some a heavy hood and straightjacket would be amazing but for others who are claustrophic it could bring on a panic attack!
When asked “What do you want” you need to think about what you like, what excites you, what turns you on but also what you don’t like, what scares you, what turns you immediately off.
The more information you can give me and the more I understand your desires, needs and interests the better and more exciting the session and the play! If you aren’t sure, let me know I can work through some questions, scenarios, ideas to gauge interest and put together something we will both very much enjoy!
Ass play can be amazing fun! But it takes patience and practice. If you aren’t experienced while the idea may make for an amazing wank fantasy don’t expect to go from number 1 (far left) to number 14 (far right) in your first session. Most people on a first introduction to ass play would be able to take the first four, then maybe number 5 / 6.
Dildos and ass toys make great introductions to anal play, you can start really small and slowly work up. And this slow bit is so important! The ass can give huge amounts of extraordinary pleasure, the phrase anal orgasm isn’t used without reason. But you must treat it with care and respect and never push too far in any session. If you feel pain that is when you need to stop – sometimes your really horny and want to push past it. Don’t! The body isn’t ready yet, and if you practice regularly you will progress a lot faster, and ultimately listening to your body will make it a lot more enjoyable! And of course can avoid any trips to A&E.
Of course a lot of guys want to get fucked, to experience the feeling of a guy pounding their ass. But what if their dick is too big, or you prefer a larger cock inside you? I also have a strap-on harness that fits all of the camo dildos above – great for practicing with a small dildo or for that full stretch! And of course never goes soft – so can fuck for as long as you want!
If you are more experienced you will love the final four toys from the boys over at Crackstuffers (www.crackstuffers.com) … these guys know how to make big toys for accommodating holes that are never satisfied.
And of course, as the sign says its not just about toys – fists too!