Welcome to the Tantric Male blog for Sir Dave!
Check back here for the latest news, appointment availability, new purchases, new ideas and just my thoughts on life work and the world. Oh and maybe the odd photo or collection of photo's I like.
Click an image to view larger size.
Day 21: Favourite BDSM related book (fiction or non-fiction)
I don’t really read that much fiction (kink or not), I get too easily distracted.
But I do love to read things to educate and extend my knowledge, and am building up quite a nice library of kink related books / magazines.
Notable titles that I have enjoyed include (in no particular order):
I also have a collection of some great photography books:
Day 19: Any unexpected ways kink has improved your life? If so, what are they?
It most definitely has! It has opened up my social circle to include some of the most amazing people I the world, from across the world!
I definitely feel my life has been very enriched by my interests in kink.
Day 18: Any kinky/BDSM pet peeves? If so, what are they?
Two words … “no limits”.
The amount of times I have seen or read this, people who really don’t understand the difference between fantasy and reality. When going through play negotiation when asked what are they into / would they like the worst answers can also include:
When people say any of the above I ask about a hard caning – one that may leave marks, or how about some needle play, fisting, toilet use? How about sissyfication and putting you in a lovely frilly dress and nappy? How about a branding scene?
Day 16: What are the most difficult aspects of having a sexuality that involves kink or BDSM for you personally?
There is always going to be a stigma associated with BDSM / kink play or what some may refer to as minority / alternative sexual interests. I’ve been called a deviant before now … I see that as a compliment.
People have preconceptions about sex and sexuality they don’t understand. And they can be very close minded to other people’s interests, and this applies to those both inside and outside the kink community. Sometimes those judgemental attitudes are worst from within our own community which makes me feel sad. Just because you don’t share someone else’s fetish or kink that is ok!