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Well here we are again, back in Lockdown.
I’m not going to lie, the past year has been tough! I’ve hardly been able to work and do the work I love … and I get that a lot of you are very frustrated and horny! The other word a lot of people have used to describe how they feel at the moment is bored. No pubs, restaurants, bars, cinemas, entertainment is quite a social killer.
But the vaccine roll-out is continuing and so far looking like it is on schedule! So hopefully in spring the restrictions can start to be lifted and we can slowly return to our lives without limits.
Now there isn’t going to a single date where it is all over … it’s not like on the 3rd July Covid will be done. We don’t know if we will ever be rid of Covid-19, but we will be back in a much stronger place and able to spend time together.
At this time I don’t know when I will be able to return to having sessions in 2021, but I am making preparations for it and getting ready to return to work and play! So here are some things I am planning, for you to look forward to and how you can help.
A lot of the kit and gear as been left unused for months, some over a year since it was last used or worn!
I’ve started sorting and cleaning everything in the dungeon. This also involves double-checking everything is still in top condition without damage or issues that would make the items unsafe to use. The furniture is firm and sturdy etc. This is work that I always do regularly after sessions, but without having used a lot of kit for a while it feels prudent to use this opportunity to review everything I have.
As part of my commitment to using the best available toys, gear and furniture I have decided to move to use only silicone ass toys. These have many advantages, easier to clean and less risk of an allergic reaction. And silicone is nonporous so safer as any substances will stay on the surface and are a lot easier to sanitise. Which is important to consider if toys are being used with multiple partners.
And so I am selling off my old dildos. These are amazing toys to use! And if you are using them yourself or with known play partners, they will bring many hours of anal pleasure and stretching.
So the collection available for sale (with estimated original purchase price) are:
So estimated price new is around £360 (again, that is estimated). I am looking at selling these to buy some new leathers. I am therefore looking for £145 for this box of toys, which will include delivery by courier to a mainland UK address.
If you are interested please E-MAIL me. Bank transfer will be the preferred method of payment.
Last year I had a Covid offer for sessions and am bringing this back again this year. I haven’t been able to make any money, and many clients have of course been on restricted incomes with furlough or impact to their own businesses.
And so I am returning the 20% reduction in price for any payments for sessions made prior to my return to sessions. This reduces an hour half session from £120 to £96, 2 hours becomes £128 and a full Slave for Day saves over £100 to become £440. Full details on my Covid information page.
For these rates full payment for the session is to be made, at the present time I would expect the absolute earliest I will be able to return to work is mid March 2021 (but it will most likely be after then).
You can make multiple payments, for a two-hour session for example you could make three separate payments of £50, £40 and £38. I will keep records of all payments and will be able to confirm the amount paid on request.
The kink and sex industry is an amazing thing to be a part of! But it is important that we ensure those in it are also able to continue with their own businesses.
And I will be helping some other small businesses how I can. Buying some new toys to complete my new Dildo collection, a new suspension harness from Enfettered, restraints and hood from Top to Bottom Leathers and also booking some photographers for shoots!
I just wanted to say a few words as we wave goodbye to the shitshow that has been 2020! If you click the image to the right you can watch my Christmas Message video.
For many of us, it has been absolutely devastating for our businesses and the businesses we love.
I have found it really quite tough not being able to work. Not able to do the job I love for the majority if this year has been horrible and really quite hard mentally. It is one of the reasons I haven’t done many new videos or been online much, but it is essential we look after ourselves right now and get through this.
Now, as we move into 2021 if you can support small businesses, be those butchers, bakers, leather makers, sex workers, coffee shops, kink stores … or any small independent store, please do!
Now more then ever the phrase “Use them or lose them” is critically important!
This also relates to favourite artists and content creators – if they have a Patreon or OnlyFans then support them if you can. All too often porn is stolen and people don’t feel they should pay for it – making content doesn’t come free of time, effort or money. So even if just a couple of quid tip, show your appreciation … and remember, wanking is year-round … not just for Christmas so if you can’t afford to support them now but can in the spring then do it then. It helps us pay our bills and encourages us to do more of what you love to see.
I don’t want to come across preaching or “woe is me”, quite the opposite, my stepping back has helped me get through this period. And I’ve tried to help others where I can, but I will admit I have been quite poor at keeping in touch with people these past few months.
Christmas is a time of so much pressure and expectation on us, and it’s tough for so many people. And this year it is that times a hundred! We can’t see friends or family, and we can’t socialise as we usually would.
For a lot of us, that means we may be spending Christmas home alone. And I have been so pleased to see so many in the kink and fetish communities all over the world organise online social gatherings on Christmas day for those who are alone or who want to chat to others. If this is something you would benefit from reach out and find local groups doing this.
That has been the year that has gone, let us look forward to 2021!
I’ve set myself a few things to look forward to, some new leathers once I get back to work – jeans, shirt and Muir cap high on the shopping list and then I need to visit Enfettered to get something new for the dungeon too!
And yes I’ve got a bit Covid fat – one of the reasons for the new gear, but that just means there is more of me to enjoy! And when things calm down a bit and I have the right focus I hope to lose those extra few kilos. But ya know what, right now I’m not beating myself up about it.
Unfortunately, social media and a lot of porn can perpetuate the myth that everyone has to fit the “Love Island” look. That isn’t realistic and frankly not something I find attractive or sexy – give me chunk and jiggly bits any day!
If you do have worries about body image and confidence I have found that watching Naked Attraction on Channel 4 is a great reminder that advertisers are wrong. We do all love different shapes, sizes, ages and have different sexual interests and turn-ons!
Anyway, I only wanted to say hello and Merry Christmas but seem to have gone on a bit. If you are struggling and just want to talk to someone please call the Samaritans anytime on 116 123. They are there to listen and for you to talk, even if you just want to say Merry Christmas or hello to another human – it can really help and you shouldn’t feel in any way embarrassed to call. They exist to ensure everyone has someone to talk to.
So, thank you to all those whose company I have had the pleasure and honour of enjoying this year, and I hope we can get together and enjoy lots of fun times in 2021!
Today is World AIDS Day and there has been a video I’ve wanted to make for a while and this is the perfect day for it!
If you look on YouTube for videos about a product, technology particularly, you will find lots of “unboxing” reviews. People get a product and then unbox it, try it out and tell you about it as they go. So today I’m going to do my first unboxing review with a home HIV test. I’ll explain why in a minute, but first World Aids Day …
It is estimated that at the moment there are over 103,000 people living with HIV in the UK. Since it was first recognised in 1981, over 35million people have died from HIV or AIDS worldwide – making it one of the most devastating Pandemics the world has seen.
World Aids Day was started in 1988 to raise awareness, reduce stigma and of course raise money for research, awareness and support projects.
Because of the COVID19 pandemic in 2020 so many of the World AIDS Day Events have had to be withdrawn this year, which is having a huge effect on fundraising efforts to support those living with HIV and funding ongoing research.
There has been lots of news in the past few weeks about the amazing work done to produce effective vaccines for COVID19 … but please don’t forget there is still no vaccine against HIV! Which is why the safer sex message about condoms and PrEP is still so important!
Traditionally each year people show their support for World AIDS Day by wearing the red ribbon, but this year I suspect we won’t see as many because we won’t see as many people out and about – England is still in Lockdown, which is why I have massive hair in the video at the moment.
You can see in the video I have the National Aids Trust Virtual Ribbon on it, which you can get to show your support on your online avatars. And if you are in the UK you can support them with by making a donation for just £1 right now with your phone.
To do this text the word REDRIBBON to 70085.
Like with the Covid19 pandemic regular testing can help us prevent the spread of HIV. There are many different tests available, the one I have used the most is this one – the BioSure HIV Self Test which is 99.7% accurate.
However! Before you do buy one please check the website of your local sexual health clinic or the Terrence Higgins Trust, these tests are often available free of charge!
The reason I wanted to make this video is to show what the test consists of, how it works and to reduce the stigma about HIV testing, what you may have to do.
Click the image above to view the video.
Quite a while ago I was in the Prowler Soho store in London and bought a good sized bright red dildo, with the intention of one day completing the set if I liked it.
I loved it and wanted to get the rest but … they stopped selling them! Now I must make a shout out to the ProwlerRED team on twitter when I asked if they have them instore and not online replied saying they didn’t sell them any longer.
But did tell me the name of the company that make them instead of trying to persuade me to buy one of their others.
And so I introduce you to the Stretch range of dildo’s and ass toys. But before I talk about them it is important to realise that not all sex toys are made equal. In fact they can be made from lots of things – wood and glass for example, and then the two most common are latex and vinyl (or plastic type products).
In recent years you will have seen talk about Silicone toys coming more popular. SquarePeg I believe launched the first range of silicone toys back in 2006! OxBalls I also remember as one of the early companies to offer silicone toys … but I don’t know when they started.
In recent years other names for big toys like Mr Hanky’s have come along and other established brands such as Crackstuffers have introduced silicone toys.
Simply put – silicone is safer. It’s non-porous – so it won’t absorb chemicals that it comes into contact with. Everything stays on the surface which means you can wash and sanitise them easily. And that safety is one of the most important benefits!
Other common materials like Latex have tiny pores that can trap bacteria, viruses and STD’s. Which is really an issue when playing with bigger toys that you can’t fit a condom or other barrier over. You can use water or oil based lubes with silicone toys, latex toys can of course be broken down by oil based products.
And they are odourless and tasteless. Actually, odour is a good topic here too as a quick aside.
Have you ever had a toy that has quite a strong plasticy smell? Or do any of your toys ‘sweat’ or get oily or greasy all by themselves? If so I would suggest you go and grab that toy and throw it out!
They aren’t some fancy self-lubricating toys … it’s actually the chemical degradation. And there is a strong possibility that the chemicals causing the smell or sweat are phthalates that are used to soften plastics.
Those chemicals are dangerous! They can cause irritation, rashes, blisters or a whole lot worse, just google them! So please check what your toys are made from and take appropriate steps – I’ve thrown out a load of my own collection already.
Some people say that Silicone Lubes can damage silicone toys, i’ve seen no evidence of this. But SquarePeg do point out on their website dissolving can occur when they come into contact with vinyl toys. Which is where the initial rumour may have started.
Ok, so moving back to toys
Whatever your experience, I have something to fit everyone, and will of course be adding more. The red dildos are part of the “Stretch” range, there are seven in the main collection and here you can see sizes 1 through 6.
Let’s start with Riker … or for non star trek nerds Number 1. This is about 15cm long with a width of 4cm. It’s a really nice size to work up to when starting out! A good toy to us to get used to an average cock fucking you.
They are all circumcised or foreskin pulled back depending on how you want to think about it.
This gives a nice head with a little bump to ride on the way in or further inside. Then the body is veiny for some texture and then some balls to make sure you can work it balls deep!
And they all have a suction base, and it really holds well! Particularly useful if you want to ride at home alone. If you have a smooth or tiled wall or floor stick it down and fuck yourself silly!
Silicone also has a nice feel about it, the temperature too. If you use a metal or glass toy for example it will feel cold when you first use it.
Two tips when shopping for toys. If you want to compare how a toys temperature will feel when inside just place them on the inside of your arm.
You’ll get the initial feel and then how long it will take to warm up to body temperature. And if looking at a vibrator in a store use the tip if your nose to feel how powerful it is.
So I said I have Stretch 1 through 6, this is the 6 and clearly for experienced and practiced holes. It’s 31cm in length and 7cm wide! As you can see more than just a handful!
In the coming months for you greedy boys and fist pigs I will be getting the Stretch 7, 5X and 5 Double X! The 5 Double X has a circumference of 28cm and is 9 cm across!!
Silicone toys can be made in a variety of firmness, if you look at toys from companies like Weredog for example you can choose the soft medium or firm toys. The Stretch range I would put as firm, they are very firm but you can squeeze them and they flex – they aren’t solid!
In the Stretch range there are some other options too, such as the Stretch Hole. It is a hollow plug – shaped with a taper for easy insertion, some bulges and base to keep it firmly held in pace and to keep your hole open.
Again like the stretch dildos made from premium silicone! The hole A is 11cm in length with a max width of 5cm The largest available is 16cm long and 8cm wide for a great stretch and gape! If you are familiar with the OxBalls pig hole these are firmer, the pig holes can collapse when using them.
And finally there is one question everyone has about toys … price. The entire range I think is excellent value for money. The Stretch 1 is just £13.85 and the Stretch 6 is £31.20 with the most expensive being the 5 Double X at £46.20!
So if you are interested in any of the Stretch toys and range you can find them on their website skyhi.me.uk. You can also find the amazing K-Lube range of lubes! It is nice to see them back on the market, and they offer free postage on orders over £35!
At this time, I do not have a firm date on which I start sessions again, I am hoping it will be the middle of July 2020. But as with everything the last few months, nothing can be set in stone and we need to evaluate the situation nearer the time.
When I am able to start seeing people again I will initially be limiting to one booking per day to give me time to complete the extra work that is going to be needed between sessions.
This may require I take a deposit for all bookings to ensure I get to see everyone who wants to visit. I cannot afford timewasters!
As soon as you arrive, I will have hand sanitiser for us both to use! Then while we have our usual chat about the session, and I will ask about your current wellbeing and health to makes sure we both feel happy to continue – if you do not feel 100%, have a temperature or any of the symptoms do not come!
Once the date is confirmed as always if you cannot make a session please tell me! If you do not cancel you will forfeit any deposit. I would rather you call the day before and cancel so that we can rebook the session.
One change I have made in the dungeon is to remove all toys and equipment from display. It will mean that I do not have everything immediately to hand, but also means I know anything that has been used is out and needs cleaning.
I always clean everything after every session, but with Coronavirus everyone is stepping up these efforts. All toys and equipment are disinfected using an appropriate cleaning product – I have various disinfectants and surface cleaners available that kill both bacteria and viruses.
I also need to think about the gear that I wear. Clothing and towels are all washed at 60 degrees with detergent. But some gear like leather and boots are harder so will be cleaned with appropriate cleaning solutions and conditioners.
There may be some activities that we aren’t able to do, and if there is anything particular you are looking for please let me know in advance so I can prepare and ensure we can do as much as possible want safely.
Do not forget any prepayments for sessions paid before I start to see people again are reduced by 20%. Things are changing all the time, so if you have any questions please get in touch, ask and keep an eye on my blog here and twitter for updates.