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I was recently asked if I would sit for a portrait, in Leather and for a painting that reflected me and was a story shared through that medium. Of course I said here, and here is the finished piece:
I love it! And I know the artist is incredibly proud of it, the way he has captured the leather is fantastic and the amount of detail is just incredible.
This is much more then just a painting of a guy in leather in his Dungeon. For me a portrait isn’t just a snapshot of the person, it should reflect them as a person and tell their story. So some of the elements of this that are important to me as were part of my journey as a Leatherman – my first leather shirt, my first piece of dungeon furniture, the first bit of gear I bought from Mister B in Amsterdam. Something from my very first visit to San Francisco and the Mr S Leather store, that is now quite important for leather history and culture, and probably quite rare now. Things that have inspired me, things that I have used in sessions, items that contain deep emotional significance for many subs (male and female) that have visited me.
There are also elements that are deeply personal, shared only between myself and the artist – some things have deep hidden meanings.
The traditional image of a leather man is both featured and updated for a more modern look that I feel more confident with. Here I am sat with my Nasty Pig Baseball Cap rather then Muir Cap as many would expect. For me the baseball cap is sexier, it gives me more confidence, it feels more a part of me.
I feel absolutely honoured to have been asked to sit for this, and am so proud of the result.
I love suspension! It’s so much fun – and the feeling of total helplessness for the sub is unlike any other.
I am also very lucky to have a dungeon space that is nearly 3m floor to ceiling – so plenty of space to leave you hanging around. I’ve been able to offer various forms of suspension for a while now with wrist and foot suspension and also the Fetters Suspension Harness. So a vertical harness position has been popular and for some upside down the perfect place for them – for others too much of a head fuck.
But what about horizontal – stretched out floating in the air? This requires a lot of space and support for the body, I’ve tried a few ideas but non have thus far worked out … until this week.
I now have a custom suspension harness that was also made by Fetters, but this one has extra padding and support to allow both the usual vertical suspension but also horizontal! And it works so well, I used it with Slave R and he said it was very comfortable.
The positions of the hands can change – down by your side your above your head depending on what is most comfortable or fits the scene best. The head can be supported with a strap, or maybe a tight leather hood, ear plugs and ear defenders for a bit of an sensory deprivation trip?
Using the harness with a sleepsack suspension frame gives lots of support, helps to keep the body flat. And once off the bondage table there is much fun to be had – plugs, estim, violet wand, doxy massager to the cock. And you feel completely helpless!
Next time I think will be fun to try it with the Handlock out front too.
Maybe with the leg spreader at the feet too just to add some extra restraint and loss of control. If you crave that helpless feeling then my Dungeon has lots of fun ways of achieving that. You just have to be careful of what you ask for …
Post a kinky image you find erotic.
Now you would think this would be one of the easier questions! But not really, there are so many that I love … my PC on the dungeon has a screensaver of my favourite photos that I save from tumblr and the internet that I really like. This folder in itself has over 1,200 pictures in it! And so I present here a selection of my favourite pictures for different moods. One of them was taken in my very own dungeon by the sexy and talented Neil Z Page. If you are looking for a fetish photographer you should definitely call him!