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The past few months have been amongst the hardest for me these past two Covid years.
Once Covid had its grubby little paws into the world the world stopped. It had to. And with that work for me stopped. It had to.
That was tough, but there was a focus to it that helped me to get through and to look forward to.
And then post-restrictions I was able to get back to what I love doing, helping people explore their kinks, fetishes, fantasies, and sexual desires. It was so good to be back in gear, back in the dungeon and enjoying ourselves again.
I have spoken before about how much I love my job, it really is amazing! Some people I talk to think that it is easy, it really isn’t. It is a business, and that comes with a whole host of extra work – it is so much more than just the sessions. Promotion, marketing, personal development and wellbeing, more promotion and marketing and then more promotion, then a bit more too.
And this has been the problem these past few months – it feels like it is all promotion and not enough time in sessions.
I’ve talked with some friends who also work as escorts, and they have said the same thing. A lot of people aren’t ready to come back to see us yet.
I’m not one of those people who always have to say how busy they are, how booked up they are, how they are a top % of some content website or other, listing how many followers they have in their Twitter profile. I do what I do because I love it, because I am good at it and most of all because my clients love what I do and think I am good at it.
But it feels like of late my focus has been on marketing and promotion, what do I need to tweet, what do I need to say, what do I need to write or film. Updating and rewriting listings. And it is hard! I’ve not had any motivation to make new videos for a few months.
I love this job and I don’t want to get to a point where I resent any part of what it involves, so I’ve decided to finish early for Christmas and take a short break. We have a new Omicron variant of Covid that we are still waiting for data to see how that affects the world, and of course, that is putting people off sessions again or making them wary.
And this constant push to get bookings but them not coming has been tough to deal with mentally, it has had a detrimental effect on the customer experience. I’ve been slower and responding to emails, to messages, forgetting to check them etc. And that is awful … that is when I realised I need to rest. I need to take some time to re-energise, to get the excitement back, the focus that is needed to give not 80, 90, 95 or 99% to the experience but a full 100%!
So I have decided that I will start a break for the Christmas period and January (always a tough time as it’s a depressingly long month and no one has any money). I’m still gonna be here, I’m still going to check emails and my phone. I need to break some of the bad habits that are creeping in. So if you want a session in January that would be amazing and you will be very welcome, but I’m not going to be promoting or pushing for them.
I will still be on Twitter, I will still be tweeting and chatting to people but maybe not as much. I will be trying to get the focus on checking my phone more regularly again, but at the moment one of the best ways of getting in touch is to send an email to [email protected].
Other listing sites I’m not going to update as regularly. I’m going to delay the redesign of my website and use that to rebuild my focus.
It’s been a horrendous time, but we will all get through this, I have my booster jab this week and will still be around.
So let’s all get our jabs, do our tests, wear our masks, help to keep everyone safe so we can make 2022 one hell of a kinky year with lots of fun!
So for now, have a Merry Kinkmas, thank you for your custom and support this past year and I look forward to our adventures together in 2022.
I am so pleased to be able to have sessions again regularly after the past 18 months of Covid. It’s is quite strange it feels like we skipped a year – we just miss 2020 when talking about seeing people, going on holiday or to events.
But restrictions are easing and the UK in the coming weeks should hit 90% of the adult population double jabbed which is an amazing achievement! Particularly when you consider less than a year ago we didn’t have a single vaccine to fight this global pandemic!
We do still need to be very aware of Covid, it is not going to go away – the world has only irradicated one disease in our history (apart from about two or three labs where it is kept just in case). So we will need to live with it, and hopefully, we can all get through the winter without any major disruptions.
And part of that living with it now is regular testing – the best prevention is to know your status. That sounds like a familiar phrase from the 80’s and 90’s. And like then it is true, if you know you are Covid positive you can isolate and prevent infection and spreading to others.
And as part of that, I am now taking almost daily Lateral Flow tests. Every day I have a client session booked I take a test first thing in the morning to make sure I am not putting them at risk. I understand these tests are as accurate as a PCR one, but they are simple, easy and give immediate results. If I think I have been exposed I book a PCR and wait for the result (fortunately that has only happened twice and both times negative).
The tests that you can order on the Gov.UK website are now nasal swabs only, which is so much easier to go and requires a lot less gagging.
Covid … what a fuck up that has been!
The last 15 or so months have been a bit of a nightmare, the pandemic has affected all of us and every aspect of our lives in very different ways. But this isn’t a competition of who has had it worse … we have all had shit to deal with.
And for me, part of that has been not being able to host any sessions. So I’ve had some time off and away from Twitter and the website etc.
I am pleased to say I’ve now been Astra-Zenica jabbed up, and the rules and restrictions we have been living under are slowly easing.
So I wanted to come back here and just do a quick update as I get ready to welcome y’all back into the dungeon.
I am now taking bookings for sessions am pleased to say that many of you have already booked in for which I am really grateful
If you are looking for a session, I have very limited spaces in the next few weeks, but later on and into July there is plenty of availability. I am limiting myself initially to one session a day and all bookings will require a £50 deposit.
And don’t forget if you pay the full amount as deposit you save 10% as a thankyou from me.
To celebrate getting back into the dungeon I have treated myself to some new leathers which will be here shortly, and this beautiful new Muir cap from Spexter in Germany along with these custom wrist cuffs from Bod leather.
So, after over a year of lockdown and frustrations it would be great to see you, and hopefully some new faces too. One thing this past year has taught many of us is that you never know what is around the corner.
And to that end I am here to help fulfil your fantasies, kinks and interests.
Until then … be seeing you.
Some times it just gets all a bit much and I needed a few weeks away from the work world. It was starting to look very bleak and I was wondering if I would ever be able to return to doing what I love. So I had to take a step back from Twitter, Instagram, FetLife, WhatsApp and everywhere else.
But Monday this week so much got better! There is hopefully some light at the end of the tunnel and not some little fuck with a torch coming to tell us it will be another 6 months!
But right now it is important to say everything comes with Covid T&C’s and may be subject to last-minute changes! Please see my Covid page for the latest news and date I will be returning to full-time sessions from.
I will still be taking precautions with sessions when I return – hand sanitiser, temp check on arrival, one session per day etc so spaces will be limited.
And don’t forget for any deposits paid before 1st June 2021 there is a 20% saving to be made. Priority for any appointments will be given to those who pay full-session / deposit before 1st June.
But now I am going to turn my phone back on, respond to everyone I have missed. I really cannot tell you how much I am looking forward to putting some boots and leathers on and welcoming you back for fun and kinky times!
Play safe and stay safe!
At this time, I do not have a firm date on which I start sessions again, I am hoping it will be the middle of July 2020. But as with everything the last few months, nothing can be set in stone and we need to evaluate the situation nearer the time.
When I am able to start seeing people again I will initially be limiting to one booking per day to give me time to complete the extra work that is going to be needed between sessions.
This may require I take a deposit for all bookings to ensure I get to see everyone who wants to visit. I cannot afford timewasters!
As soon as you arrive, I will have hand sanitiser for us both to use! Then while we have our usual chat about the session, and I will ask about your current wellbeing and health to makes sure we both feel happy to continue – if you do not feel 100%, have a temperature or any of the symptoms do not come!
Once the date is confirmed as always if you cannot make a session please tell me! If you do not cancel you will forfeit any deposit. I would rather you call the day before and cancel so that we can rebook the session.
One change I have made in the dungeon is to remove all toys and equipment from display. It will mean that I do not have everything immediately to hand, but also means I know anything that has been used is out and needs cleaning.
I always clean everything after every session, but with Coronavirus everyone is stepping up these efforts. All toys and equipment are disinfected using an appropriate cleaning product – I have various disinfectants and surface cleaners available that kill both bacteria and viruses.
I also need to think about the gear that I wear. Clothing and towels are all washed at 60 degrees with detergent. But some gear like leather and boots are harder so will be cleaned with appropriate cleaning solutions and conditioners.
There may be some activities that we aren’t able to do, and if there is anything particular you are looking for please let me know in advance so I can prepare and ensure we can do as much as possible want safely.
Do not forget any prepayments for sessions paid before I start to see people again are reduced by 20%. Things are changing all the time, so if you have any questions please get in touch, ask and keep an eye on my blog here and twitter for updates.