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From Suits to Skinhead (Part 1)

27th August 2019

Not so long ago I had a repeat visitor for a Slave for A Day booking. But this was to be slightly different, to fulfil a fantasy from his younger days when he remembered seeing Skinheads. Their big boots, jeans, braces, Fred Perry shirts and the attitude that went with it.

A city worker more used to shirts and ties then then boots and braces this was to be quite an impressive transformation.

And it all started before he had stepped foot into the Dungeon. If he was to be turned into not just a skinhead, but My skinhead boy he needed bleachers! And to ensure he knew he was mine they would be bleachers I prepared and presented him with. Jeans purchased and prepared. For bleachers I am a big fan of skinny fit jeans like these. Note all pics posted are always with full permission and consent.

Skinny Bleachers
Skinny Bleachers

He also placed an order with Bleachers & Co for some 14hole Rangers boots, laces, braces, Fred Perry Shirts and Harrington jacket. In addition to a pair of the back-zip jeans. I have purchased gear from them before, but this is the first time I’ve seen their modified jeans and they are as impressive as they look on the site! The zips are hidden away so perfect for wearing in public.

The gear was delivered to here waiting for me to begin his transformation.

Many who visit for the Slave for a Day session book into the Premier Inn hotel at Wolverhampton as they usually aren’t local. Since he was arriving a day earlier an extra preparation session was added on to the evening before his day of service.

The clothes he was wearing when I collected him were all that he had in the hotel … everything else was in his car, so whatever he was wearing when I dropped him off at the hotel was all he had to wear.

Firstly – his cock had to be locked! It is of no use to either of us, so we started off with locking that in a snug pink chastity device. I of course kept the key, but in case of emergency he was given a spare key in a sealed envelope to present when returning to show that he hadn’t removed the device.

Stripped and locked I took all his clothing away … he wouldn’t need them until after the session as complete the following day! If he wanted to be transformed into a skinhead, he would always be one for the duration of his time with me.

Slave marked and waiting

The session would of course start with some training, dressing his Skinhead Master, cleaning his boots and lacing them up. And then there was a lot more to come later in the day.

To be continued …

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Event Review: Kinky Consent

18th March 2019

For a long time I’ve been looking for a kinky fetishy bdsmy club night of pervery that is local.

I will admit I’ve never been a big one for most clubs, the exception to the rule has always been Backstreet. Most gay fetish events don’t interest me because most just seem to be mostly a sex club with crap dress code. If that is your thing that’s fine, for me I want to socialise, be able to have a conversation without lip reading and just nodding and saying “yeah” because I have no idea what you said, and if the mood was to take me … some play! Also respect for basic protocols – collars actually have a lot of meaning!

Now that rant is over, lets get back to the subject. Summer last year I found Kinky Consent on Twitter and something about it appealed. Unfortunately, my diary and the monthly event never matched up and I missed quite a few events. And there have been some amazing sounding nights – the Sissy Pageant sounded a real highlight!

Last year I put the February’s event in my diary as the weekend to loose my KC virginity! I made a note to make sure that I didn’t miss it!!

The night is held at the Klub Kink in Dudley – so super local to me (just 20 mins away). And I must compliment the club for the extensive drinks collection, unfortunately I couldn’t partake in too much as I was driving (I definitely need a slave chauffer next time). The most surprising thing about the venue was the price of the drinks … very reasonable! A Williams Chase G&T was just £4.00! And the most popular thing at the bar seemed to be the Pork Scratchings! And damn tasty they were too.

I was stepping a little outside my comfort zones, going to an event for the first time alone – not knowing anyone who would be there. My social anxiety can go sky high so I find it quite difficult to engage in conversation with people.

In the week I sent Mistress L (one of the organisers) a message to say I’ll be coming along, and received the most enthusiastic welcome and introduction to others in attendance.

The night is usually help over two floors of the club – with a large roomy bar with plenty of seating, a dungeon with variety of kit in it, and upstairs a host of fun spaces! Glory holes, private rooms, orgy room to name a few. And there is also a dungeon area downstairs behind the bar.

The night was a quiet one for attendance, a few regulars and distinguished guests were ill or unable to attend for a variety of reasons. But that didn’t stop the fun! It was a friendly welcoming crowd, not to mention incredibly sexy.

The hosts will make sure you are made to feel welcome, the Mistresses, subs, boys, Masters and others who go provide a great mix of interests and people. If you listen to Secret 102 Radio you will be sure to bump into a host or one of the regular presenters.

KC events also come with some organised fun each month, and this month was the enticing sounding “Last Slave Standing”. Quite simple, a host of impact implements from soft and lovely to very spikey and fuck-me ouchy! The rules where simple … start off with two whacks / strokes with the implement chosen at random by means of a raffle ticket. Then each round it doubled until there was just one slave standing.

The resident Dommes took turns in giving the thrashings, and I was able to enjoy the show sat that the bar with a drink and packet of Pork Scratchings.

I was impressed with all of them!!! I’m sure they were equally proud of their rewards (ie bruises) in the days that followed.

I was also asked to draw the raffle ticket for the prize draw … and genuinely without any cheating or influence I picked my own bloody ticket!! And then because they are such lovely people they let me keep my price – an amazing Crotch Rocket strapon harness and dildo Locked In Lust! The harness and dildo are an amazing combination and have been well used with several slaves since! A full review and pictures will be coming very shortly.

Unfortunately, I have to miss a few more KC nights until I can go again … damn diary conflicts. But I will be back and have made a note in my diary for all the events until the rest of the year so that I can hopefully make this a more regular thing.

So if you are looking for a friendly sociable play night I strongly recommend you get yourself over to Dudley. The next event is April 13th – check out their website for details.

I can’t make April’s, but I’m doing my best to get to May’s 1st Birthday Extravaganza!

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New Dungeon for London Sessions

12th March 2019

This week I visited an amazing new Dungeon that is perfect for those in London and surrounding areas looking to book a BDSM Dungeon session with myself.

This is a private dungeon available for sessions, and is incredibly well equipped! How well? Well to give you an idea it as all the following items:

  • Fetters Bondage Wheel
  • Fetters Inversion Table
  • Fetters Bondage Chair
  • Fetters Bondage Table
  • Fetters Sling
  • Fetters Tall Cage
  • Fetters Sleepsack with Shoulder Suspension
  • Tall suspension frame with three electric hoists

And of course a huge collection of bondage cuffs, leather and rubber hoods, gas masks etc. And a very extensive collection of whips, floggers and paddles all by Essentia whips.

I also love the padded isolation cage in the corner too – complete with straps inside to make sure you are save and secure for an intense bondage experience!

With all this amazing kit available, including a Venus milker or even a SeriousKit Milking Machine (by special arrangement) you are guaranteed of an intense and unique experience with so much kit t0 choose from.

So instead of fantasising about it, get in touch and book your session!

Sessions are available here with booking, check out the rates page for details!

The dungeon is just 35minutes from Euston if your in London, which is a lot more convenient then spending an hour travelling across the city.

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New gallery preview

3rd November 2018

I’ve been a big fan of the photographic work of Neil Z Page Images, and have had the pleasure of meeting Neil at several events. So when I decided to get a new series of photo’s for the website and social media it was a very shortlist, so short in fact there was only one name on it.

So this month I will be adding new photos the the gallery page and social media. Follow me on Twitter to find out when they are available, but until then here is a preview:

Photographer: Neil Z Page

We had a great day getting this series of pictures, I’m really excited to share them with you all and looking forward to booking another session in the new year!

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The Leatherman NYC

1st October 2018

On my recent stop over in New York there was one place I had to visit. No not Big Gay Ice Cream (well not this time – though I do love their Bea Arthur ice-cream), it was Leatherman NYC.

San Francisco has Mr S, New York has Leatherman! Both amazing stores and absolute must visit for any kinkster or perv visiting the city.

Leatherman stock a variety of products from companies like Square Peg, Hanky Toys, Ox Balls, Wesco and Alpha Industries. But they also make a load of their own products, both bondage and clothing! And their leather clothing is amazing, and there is one thing that makes this store so special to visit. Their sizing!

This is something that I have complained about before about so many fetish companies, here you can buy a variety of sizes in their shirts and jeans / breeches. After spending a small fortune at Langlitz Leathers and Wesco (blog post coming in the next few days about that), I wasn’t planning on buying anything here. But that plan didn’t last very long – I’m in a store full of Leather and the smell is quite intoxicating.

I’ve been thinking of buying a new waistcoat / vest for a while, something plain and simple. A thumb through the racks and there are plenty of designs and importantly sizes of vests! And the prices are all super reasonable for the quality of the products.

No sooner had I picked one up to try out one of the excellent staff came over to assist and make sure I was ok and could find what I was looking for. And gave advice and feedback on the products – did they look right, was it the right length and size. They wanted to help me find something that fit! And that is how I ended up walking out with a gorgeous 44″ chest new waistcoat (with several larger sizes and styles available) – I couldn’t wait to wear it, and Flaming Saddles was the perfect place to go that evening in it!

For comparison on the sizing issue that most companies don’t address in Regulation and Mister B for example I couldn’t even squeeze into their largest size of waistcoat in the store.

The store has most clothing upstairs, and down a snug spiral staircase, is the large selection of quality toys and bondage kit! And the workshop where much of their amazing products are made and adjusted.

A great store, great service and well worth a visit!

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