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Day 16: What are the most difficult aspects of having a sexuality that involves kink or BDSM for you personally?
There is always going to be a stigma associated with BDSM / kink play or what some may refer to as minority / alternative sexual interests. I’ve been called a deviant before now … I see that as a compliment.
People have preconceptions about sex and sexuality they don’t understand. And they can be very close minded to other people’s interests, and this applies to those both inside and outside the kink community. Sometimes those judgemental attitudes are worst from within our own community which makes me feel sad. Just because you don’t share someone else’s fetish or kink that is ok!
How would you say real life BDSM/kink varies from fantasy BDSM/kink? If you haven’t experienced real life BDSM/kink how do you think it might differ?
Physical and mental … in fantasy you can do so much more then you may in reality. And of course you don’t have to worry about real life afterwards. Several people may want / need a severe caning but the marking that this can leave behind is something they aren’t able to have for when they leave.
Explain as best you can what the appeal of kink/BDSM is to you? Why are you drawn to what you’re drawn to?
It’s all about my favourite sexual organ – the brain! Blow jobs and fucking can be fun … but kink play is so much more, and so much better!! It is the personal connection, the power, the intensity of it, also the gear and toys too!
Tell us about a humorous BDSM/kink experience you’ve had. If you haven’t had one, talk about aspects of kink/BDSM you find funny.
I’m sure we have all had scenes and moments that no matter how intense or horny something has just switched and its ended up in fits of giggles. I can’t think of any specific moments, but I have to admit I always find the pups a real source of amusement. They can just be too adorable!
I think sometimes people need to remember to lighten up and not take themselves too seriously. This is something we do for fun, for pleasure – you can smile and laugh, that’s ok!