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I love suspension! It’s so much fun – and the feeling of total helplessness for the sub is unlike any other.
I am also very lucky to have a dungeon space that is nearly 3m floor to ceiling – so plenty of space to leave you hanging around. I’ve been able to offer various forms of suspension for a while now with wrist and foot suspension and also the Fetters Suspension Harness. So a vertical harness position has been popular and for some upside down the perfect place for them – for others too much of a head fuck.
But what about horizontal – stretched out floating in the air? This requires a lot of space and support for the body, I’ve tried a few ideas but non have thus far worked out … until this week.
I now have a custom suspension harness that was also made by Fetters, but this one has extra padding and support to allow both the usual vertical suspension but also horizontal! And it works so well, I used it with Slave R and he said it was very comfortable.
The positions of the hands can change – down by your side your above your head depending on what is most comfortable or fits the scene best. The head can be supported with a strap, or maybe a tight leather hood, ear plugs and ear defenders for a bit of an sensory deprivation trip?
Using the harness with a sleepsack suspension frame gives lots of support, helps to keep the body flat. And once off the bondage table there is much fun to be had – plugs, estim, violet wand, doxy massager to the cock. And you feel completely helpless!
Next time I think will be fun to try it with the Handlock out front too.
Maybe with the leg spreader at the feet too just to add some extra restraint and loss of control. If you crave that helpless feeling then my Dungeon has lots of fun ways of achieving that. You just have to be careful of what you ask for …
Day 21: Favourite BDSM related book (fiction or non-fiction)
I don’t really read that much fiction (kink or not), I get too easily distracted.
But I do love to read things to educate and extend my knowledge, and am building up quite a nice library of kink related books / magazines.
Notable titles that I have enjoyed include (in no particular order):
I also have a collection of some great photography books:
Viewers of my Twitter and Instagram feeds will probably have seen I will occasionally post a #MorningCoffee picture … I am a coffee addict! Sometimes need several to get me up and going in the morning, afternoon or evening.
Tall, fat, skinny, cappuccino, latte, instant, Nespresso, Tassimo, mocha, with wings, double shot, with sprinkles … however they come I’m always happy when I have coffee, and happiest when I have a slave sat at my boots whilst I enjoy it.
This picture is one of my favourite pictures taken a few months back when we had the big snow fall, not the recent one last week. A quick cuppa before a regular slave was tied up and edged for an hour.
And now you can support me in my addiction! Click on the button above and you can now pay for a perfect cup of coffee (£3.00) on my Ko-Fi page.
I know I have many fans who can’t commit to visit me for a session, for many reasons, but they appreciate the tweets, the pictures on Instagram and the work of this blog. And now you also have a way of showing your appreciation for that … photoshoots, gear, dungeon equipment and coffee all cost money. And it is only with the support of slaves, fans and admirers that I am able to continue to do what I love.
For each coffee that is paid for another #MorningCoffee picture will be added to the gallery. If you pay for a coffee just let me know if you want to see a particular #MorningCoffee picture enjoying it … any particular gear / location you would like to see it.
Mr S Leather have led the way in innovation for those into Puppy play. They had the neoprene Woof! muzzle (which I happily own), and they had some leather and rubber pup hoods and then the developed the Neoprene Puppy hood which I would say has become one of the most popular hoods on the market! It is certainly the one I see around on Twitter and at events most.
And it’s not surprising really, it is an amazing hood – super comfortable to wear, easy to drink with and keeps the mouth clear (the Woof! muzzle isn’t as good at this bit I find). And best of all, the Neoprene hood can come in custom colours … I’ve been trying to work out how many designs you could have, but quite frankly my head started to hurt so I didn’t bother. But I may come back to that one day!
The problem is deciding which of the combinations of colours you want for your inner pup, it’s quite a big thing! Has to reflect your pups personality, persona, breed may. So you want to get it right! And so to help with this I have put together a Pup Hood Visualiser on the site. I did this independently, just for something to help me design my own puppy’s look. And in doing it thought you guys may be interested to!
At the moment the visualiser only works for the Neoprene style of hood, if there is interest I can add the Leather Pup hood to it too in time and some extra features. For now, go ahead and design your own hood and order one from the team in San Francisco!