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All about Bondage

14th August 2017

There is something special about the loss of control and freedom, particularly when that loss is physical and restrictive. But bondage comes in many forms so it is important to explore which appeals to you.

Mental Bondage

In some ways, the hardest!

No physical restraints, just mind over body. You are given an instruction to follow, a position to stay in and you must hold it for a given time or until told otherwise. Failure can result in punishment! It can be incredibly powerful … particularly in a bar.

You are told you are always to stand 10cm behind your Master, hands behind your back. That’s it – wherever he stands, you must stand immediately behind him. At the bar ordering a drink, chatting to some of his friends, standing in line for a urinal, standing at the urinal you must always be there. He probably won’t talk to you, but he will know of your presence and that is all he needs.

Restraints, handcuffs and hogties

You know you’re a bondage fan if you can think back to being a kid and remember all those police shows for one thing … handcuffs! You wanted nothing more than to feel those steel cuffs get locked into your wrists.

And even now they are amongst my favourite bondage gear, particularly my solid folding speedcuffs. Simple, easy to put on and very effective. There is something about the feel of cold steel against your skin knowing you can’t escape that is quite fun. Or you can go a bit further with some shackles – thick metal cuffs locked on with chain between them, add a pair to your ankles, a metal collar and more chain to link it all up. The perfect prisoner.

For some they don’t enjoy the feel of metal on their skin, leather is their preference. Which is good as you can get lots of leather cuffs – indeed I have a full set of Fetters Padded leather cuffs (collar, wrist, ankle and thigh) and also a set of Top to Bottom Leathers Luxury Leather cuffs (collar, wrist and ankle – thigh to be added).

These leather cuffs look great on, and with the D-Rings and ability padlock them on you can use them for a lot of fun positions! A very popular one of course being a hogtie – lying on your front with your arms pulled back, tied to your feel / thighs. And now we move into the next level of bondage – immobility, you are restrained in such a way you can’t physically escape! Now you really have lost control.

Straightjackets

You can run but you can’t escape! You can’t beat the feeling of a straightjacket. Arms folded across your torso, the jacket tightly buckled on, straps between your legs to make sure you can’t lift it over your head. You can wriggle and squirm but you aren’t going anywhere!

And for me there is only one material for them – leather!!

A quality straight jacket is an item of beauty, the weight, smell and feel of it. As you put it on you are slowly loosing a connection to the outside world. Hands are such an important part of our body  and they are strapped up and you can’t touch anything with them – just feel the inside of the sleeves. And of course the more buckles and straps a straight jacket has the better!

Mummification

Many consider this to be more extreme or hardcore bondage, but for others this helps them reach av state of bliss and relaxation unlink anything else. This usually refers to total body restraint and often complete enclosure.

If we start off with a very literal version using two words that get so many bondage aficionados excited… duct tape! Your entire body tightly covered in a layer of duct tape – there really is no escape! Such a sticky tape directly into skin and hair isn’t very good, so a layer of pallet wrap is often used first. Or muslin wraps around the head maybe. Yes, full coverage from your head all the way down. And with careful application you can leave the nipples and cock exposed for extra fun and torment.

Full Mummification can be amazing, but it should be something you are prepared for! One of the down sides is that it isn’t something that can be undone quickly. When in such a restricted and vulnerable place the mind doesn’t always follow the dicks desire and panic can quickly set in. The fantasy of complete loss of control and that happening are quite different things.

And so that introduces us to a product I believe first sold by a Jim Stewart, founder of Fetters in the UK. The Sleepsack. They are made from a variety of materials – canvas, rubber, neoprene or like Jim’s original Leather.

They are sometimes referred to as body bags, but I think most people use the term Sleepsack as its a not quite as morbid. These are body shape and sized bags, usually with a full-length zip down the front so that you can easily get in. Once in, it is zipped up from toes through to your neck completely encasing you. For extra security to make it that much harder to escape they often have arm sleeves fitted on the inside.

Manufacturers all offer a slightly different variations and extras, such as d-rings along the zip to add some rope for extra security or even attachment points for suspension. Zips usually allow access to the cock and balls, ass and sometimes nipples to.

The one big advantage of a Sleepsack is that you can have freedom just by hazing a zip undone. Simple for the Dom but no so easy when your inside it.

Rope work

There are many forms of ropework, and it can be as beautiful as it is restrictive. There are some amazing Rope Tops who love nothing more then spending a few hours with countless metres of rope and a body to tie up.

Unfortunately, this isn’t something I have a huge amount of experience in and leave it to those far more skilled then I. For some examples, I suggest looking at tumblr – LondonRopeTop is a very well-known rigger who enjoys showing off his work. And for some really beautiful examples of how bondage can also be artwork checkout this interview with Tyger Yoshi.

Added furniture

Most of the types and positions discussed above revolve around restraining the body to itself, or on its own … not tied to something. A post, an attachment point on the wall for example. You are free to move maybe, but you can’t escape.

One item I have is the bondage board custom-made by Fetters for me to fit on top of my Puppy Cage. On top it has 12 large d-rings for attaching cuffs, rope, straps to in order to hold a boy down in place. It isn’t large enough to lie on – but that isn’t a problem as it is the perfect size for a hogtie! The advantage to me is that I don’t have to bend down as they are at my height, and there is a hole.

I can tie a sub down to it, and have their cock and balls lined up with the hole … perfect for some gentle cock teasing with a vibrator maybe. Or how about some CBT … add some weights with a ball parachute? Or really push them over the edge with the Venus milking machine on their dick?

But there are many items of furniture, bondage tables, whipping bench (like mine pictured here with a slave strapped down), st andrews cross, bondage chairs, and many more!

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