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30 Days of Kink – Day 14

3rd September 2016

How would you say real life BDSM/kink varies from fantasy BDSM/kink? If you haven’t experienced real life BDSM/kink how do you think it might differ?


Physical and mental … in fantasy you can do so much more then you may in reality. And of course you don’t have to worry about real life afterwards. Several people may want / need a severe caning but the marking that this can leave behind is something they aren’t able to have for when they leave.

And in your fantasies you will always have the perfect scene, the hottest sexiest guys, the perfect bodies and the pure heaven of total control or loss of control.

In real life sometimes the headspace isn’t there, or it may be but the body isn’t.

Though fantasy can become reality, we fantasise to explore our inner desires and needs. Through exploring these fantasies we can then make them a reality … or as close as possible.

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