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Post a kink related song or music video you enjoy.
This was a difficult one! I’m not a big music person, I have some old albums and random playlists I may put on. Music for me is usually what Radio 2 is playing as that is my default way of listening to it. But there is one music video I love, it has a loose kink link. The lead singer used to dance at The Cock, its filmed in one of my favourite cities (New York) and the band look damned sexy in it – particularly Babydaddy!
Post a kinky image you find erotic.
Now you would think this would be one of the easier questions! But not really, there are so many that I love … my PC on the dungeon has a screensaver of my favourite photos that I save from tumblr and the internet that I really like. This folder in itself has over 1,200 pictures in it! And so I present here a selection of my favourite pictures for different moods. One of them was taken in my very own dungeon by the sexy and talented Neil Z Page. If you are looking for a fetish photographer you should definitely call him!
What’s your favourite toy?
This is a really hard one to answer – it depends on what I’m doing! But there are some definite favourites that I will often come back to use, favourite floggers, restraints etc. I often find people who make amazing stuff and I want a full collection from them, floggers for example I have a set of 6 from Bare Leatherworks in Seattle (deer, elk, cow fullsize and midsize, buffalo and thudstinger) but I feel there are probably one or two more I would like to get to complete the set!
Most of my bondage restraints come from Fetters, and Top to Bottom Leathers who make the most exquisite products, and then for eStim products there is of course eStim Systems – all three of these companies are small independent places who manufacturer their own products here in the UK!
But I would probably say for a toy it is an excellent quite large large double ended vibrator. It’s bright pink and came from Ann Summers – which surprises a lot of people. Annoyingly you can’t get it on their website, it has two powerful motors inside that can be independently controlled and has various modes. Perfect to place on the cock, balls, a toy on the ass, to send vibrations down some nipple clamps. Definitely a keeper!
I am very fortunate in being able to have built up a huge collection of toys, some people collect stamps I collect kinky toys. And the problem is when you start collecting them, you always want more and keep finding new items to add!
Describe your weirdest/most interesting sexual fantasy.
I wouldn’t say I have any “weird” fantasies, but that is more a reflection on what I consider weird. Because to me sexuality is such a broad spectrum of feelings, emotions and experiences I love to explore other people’s sexual turn on and ideas.
There are a few that I haven’t experienced that I would like to. Definitely more outdoor play, a sub tied between two tree’s – arms outstretched, legs held apart and then flogged. But a really long drawn out intense roller coaster of sensations of a flogging scene. I’d also like to subject a sub to a heavy bondage and torment scene when I have the final two items of equipment for that. The Fetters Bondage Chair and Venus 2000 masturbator machine. A sub, ideally in full bike leathers, maybe rubber, strapped in to the bench, eStim plug, Venus on his cock and then the fun can really start!!
What was your first kinky sexual experience? If you haven’t had one yet, talk about what you hope to have happen.
I’m not sure! Though I can remember buying my very first bit of kinky gear, and of course it had to be leather. It was a plain leather collar from Expectations in London, in fact I still have it and it was the first picture I posted as part of my Collar photo series on Instagram. Going into the store, wow – you walk up a couple of steps to the door and then down a flight of stairs into the basement. The walls either side are covered with posters for fetish events, bars and clubs. But the best thing about it is the smell! The smell of leather and rubber as you walk in is quite intoxicating!