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Thankyou Manchester for not just a Big Weekend, but an amazing weekend! And thankyou to all my friends who were a part of it and made it so special. I last went to Manchester Pride a three or four years ago, and had quite a mixed experience of it. But was determined to make the best of it this year … it’s all in the planning.
I have quite a love / hate relationship with pride – indeed a good friend on twitter replied to a comment saying “you sound like a crotchety old man”, which is about right. I don’t really like hugely crowded places, queuing to get in a bar, or the fact that you can apparently only celebrate pride with music turned up to 11. I do enjoy a good bar with a drag DJ taking the piss out of everyone, but most of the time I’d prefer an old man boozer.
This is a review of what is called “The Worlds Most Comfortable Butt Plug” made by the team across the pond at Mr S Leather in San Francisco, and available here in the UK from the team at Regulation Ltd in London.
This isn’t a really new toy, its been around since 2005 (probably earlier), but hasn’t had the presence it deserves here in the UK.
But before we get down to it (or it in) I just wanted to cover what is meant by “butt plug” – they are ass toys, but different to dildos etc. They are designed to be put in your asshole and left, the design usually angled or rounded for smooth insertion with a thinner neck. The neck width is important, as if you want to wear this for more then a few hours the more the sphincter muscle can fully contract the better and happier your ass will be.
What are your views on the ethics of kink?
This question I, and it appears others, struggled with – in what context are they asking question. Kink in terms of a lifestyle choice and the general morality of kinky action, or the ethics by which we play?
There are those who see sex as purely for the procreation of a species, they either don’t understand or believe it can be an activity that people can participate in for the simple reason of enjoyment or pleasure. Imagine the idea of sex that doesn’t revolve around, or quite often even involve, your cock. Well that’s just crazy talk!
What are your hard limits?
Bareback / unsafe sex – is a fuck really worth it? Get a condom that is the right size for your dick and go for it! Though I must admit I’m not a big fan of fucking, I kinda get bored after a while – though using a strap on to fuck I really enjoy! Partly because I get so much more control over the experience – what size and shape dildo I use.
But back to bareback sex, the risk and consequences of STI’s are too great for me. I’d rather avoid a life of pills and blood tests if I can.