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Spanking … something many naughty boys desire, lust after or require.
And it’s something I find so much fun to do! I recently had the pleasure of the visit of a very naughty boy whose bum needed a lot of attention! An hour and half of spanking in fact.
You can see it here halfway through the session, doesn’t it look amazing and warm! Red bottoms are always such a treat to look at. I started him off with some classic over-the-knee spanking through his shorts to get warmed up.
This time also allows me to do something else – have a good feel! Spanking isn’t just hitting someone’s arse – that gets very boring for both parties, there is a skill and an art to it. The area you have to work with is a lot bigger than your hand, and you need to get familiar with it.
So while someone is over your knee you can do some nice gentle slaps, but you can also have a good exploration and get to know what you are working with.
Let them feel your hand running over the ass, down the crack, a gentle touch of the tips of your fingers behind their balls, finding the line between ass and legs and of course a nice big circle to run around the outside of the area you have to work with.
Now as I get familiar I can throw in some good sharp smacks here and there with a nice rub to soothe the buttocks afterwards. The reward if you like. And this can continue for a while, then it’s time for the shorts to come off! It’s so erotic and sexy to see an ass in front of you bent over, asking to be spanked. Craving that warmth and the feeling of the red glow.
The 2nd position often use is with the subject on their feet bent over … but this is a hard position to hold, so I usually put a small stool down for them to rest their hands and upper body weight on. This also allows for spanking to be included into other forms of play, maybe a quick punishment to remind them of their behaviour or that they aren’t showing Sir enough respect. They can be moved to lean over and rest on the stool knowing what is coming.
Since this was a longer session where spanking and impact play was a big part of it there was one place the boy needed to be, on the whipping bench or rather spanking bench for this session. This beautiful piece of furniture is from Fetters Warwick, padded leather support for both body and legs with straps to hold them down … up to 12 of them infact! But I mostly use the rear ones to hold down the legs and body.
And so it begins, the ass as in the perfect position and height for a thrashing!
Now spanking of course affects both of us, the sting of the spank also affects my hand! So to help with this I usually wear my tight leather gloves, they lessen the sing to my hand and look fucking hot. But sometimes even with the gloves, my hands need a little break so have an extensive range of paddles to use.
The paddles also add a different sensation and experience for the bottom, some softer, some worse, some much much worse.
But enough talk, would you like to see a video of the spanking? You should Follow me on Twitter or keep an eye out and you can see a preview in a few day’s time!
Finally – remember spanking or impact play isn’t for everyone! And of course, sometimes marks and bruises need to be avoided which I can do. Just let me know beforehand!
This is a picture from slaves visit a few months back, a very memorable and enjoyable time!
A long time ago I saw a picture of another sub/slave in a similar position and always enjoyed the look of it, so when the opportunity came to recreate it I couldn’t say no.
A combination of rubber, tit pegs, suspension and milking with the Venus milker. Perfect! Of course the trick is to keep them on edge as long as possible … not always easily achieved with the milker though.
I didn’t this time but you could add to the intensity of this with say an eStim or vibrating butt plug.
Here I am using a sit suspension harness – easier to set up than the full suspension harness, and a more comfortable seated position for the legs. You just have to get the back support right which can be tricky to get right. But for scenes like this, it is a perfect solution.
Have you seen a photo or video online you find so hot you want to try to recreate it? Why not share it with me and we can see if we can make it happen for you!
A lot of people assume that a session with me is all about the “yes Sir” – domination, Master / slave sub / Dom roleplay. Or it’s about pain when we talk about BDSM. It often is, but it doesn’t have to be!
Whenever I am asked what I do I describe myself as a “Professional Fetish Escort”. Some may say Pro Dom but I find that is too specific. I love domination, I love control, I love exploring people’s masochistic side with them. But that isn’t everything I do.
Now if you look through my website you see a common theme – leather and boots. These are two of my biggest gear fetishes! And they are incredibly popular with others I’m pleased to say. But I also have a lot of other gear too, or maybe it doesn’t have to involve gear – let’s just get naked and play around!
So, what do I do – what do I mean by Fetish Escort?
Well, I see my role is to help you explore your kink, your fetish … *your* sexuality and your fantasies and desires. If you want the Leather Master … great! But if you are looking for something more relaxed and maybe just want to try playing around with some mutual fun … perfect we can do that too!
For example, I’ve had people who wanted to try out a bondage chair, a sling, e-stim, or maybe see how a flogging feels. Some have just wanted to try out some gear before they bought their own … finding what a heavy leather hood, fucking machine or rubber vav-rac is like.
And we can do all of that in safe, relaxed space no “Yes Sir” required, just an open mind to see what works for you. It doesn’t always have to be fetish or kink related either.
I’m an excellent massage therapist and can give you the most amazing naked erotic massage, and these are really popular with people who maybe haven’t been with a guy before.
They just want to feel that intimate touch, and to know they are free to touch and explore too without worry about doing something wrong. These massages can be on my regular massage table or maybe the bondage table in the playroom … Some people like the idea of a little light bondage being added to add to the excitement.
Or maybe you would prefer on the bed – naked exploring each other’s bodies and talking about your fantasies.
I also like to think I can help people other aspects of themselves. I have had both male and female crossdressers and transgender visitors. I know lots of guys just love the look and feel of dressing in women’s clothes and underwear- it makes them feel sexy. But they don’t feel they can share that part of themselves with someone else.
Now there are some amazing dressing services around the country for TGirls, and they do a wonderful service! But maybe you want to explore the sexy side I can help with that!
That could just be wearing lingerie like stockings, suspenders and a bra or it can go to being a sissy sucking the cock of a 6foot 2 Leather Man or getting fucked by him with a strap-on for the ultimate pegging experience.
And of course, there are also trans guys too who want to explore their sexuality.
I’ve had guys visit who are incredibly confident in themselves but didn’t feel 100% confident in asking for the sex they wanted or how to explore it.
So yeah, it can be domination and consensual abuse, or it can be just hanging out naked.
Whatever your desire… I can help you explore it without judgement, and hopefully help you make some great memories for your own wank bank.
Wow, it is nearly the end of May already!
So the start of 2022 has not been anything like I have planned, I haven’t been able to dedicate anywhere enough time to this work or my website. It has been quite a stressful start to the year with a few false starts along the way.
But I am pleased to say things have calmed down now, sessions should now be available regularly again and I am back working on some long overdue podcasts and videos about kink, BDSM and all the fun things we can do together!
I also thought I’d share some updates that I have added to the site with some new photos! First of all, I have updated the Session Instax photo gallery.
These are some of my favourite pictures on the site – because they look amazing, but they are taken from sessions I have had (with the consent of the subject to share of course). These pictures are taken with an Instant camera, something I offer for sessions as a keepsake. They aren’t digital pics they are a version of the old Polaroid picture – the camera prints the photo directly so there are no copies! Take or destroy the picture and there are no copies anywhere!
The ones I have permission to share I scan and upload to the gallery, there are now 40 pictures in the gallery to go through – click the picture here to check them out!
This picture is part of a scene I have wanted to recreate for a while. Suspended in a sit sling, pegs on the tits and then Venus milker working a big load out of the slave’s dick and nothing they could do to stop it!
You will find several pics of slave in the gallery – suspended, strapped down, in the bondage chair and where it belongs – worshipping my tall boots.
I also recently had the absolute pleasure to meet up with the incredibly sexy and talented D81 Photo’s for some more pictures, this time here in my own playroom. You can check those pics out in the gallery and you will also find one of my all-time favourite pictures in my Leathers too.
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Until next time.
The past few months have been amongst the hardest for me these past two Covid years.
Once Covid had its grubby little paws into the world the world stopped. It had to. And with that work for me stopped. It had to.
That was tough, but there was a focus to it that helped me to get through and to look forward to.
And then post-restrictions I was able to get back to what I love doing, helping people explore their kinks, fetishes, fantasies, and sexual desires. It was so good to be back in gear, back in the dungeon and enjoying ourselves again.
I have spoken before about how much I love my job, it really is amazing! Some people I talk to think that it is easy, it really isn’t. It is a business, and that comes with a whole host of extra work – it is so much more than just the sessions. Promotion, marketing, personal development and wellbeing, more promotion and marketing and then more promotion, then a bit more too.
And this has been the problem these past few months – it feels like it is all promotion and not enough time in sessions.
I’ve talked with some friends who also work as escorts, and they have said the same thing. A lot of people aren’t ready to come back to see us yet.
I’m not one of those people who always have to say how busy they are, how booked up they are, how they are a top % of some content website or other, listing how many followers they have in their Twitter profile. I do what I do because I love it, because I am good at it and most of all because my clients love what I do and think I am good at it.
But it feels like of late my focus has been on marketing and promotion, what do I need to tweet, what do I need to say, what do I need to write or film. Updating and rewriting listings. And it is hard! I’ve not had any motivation to make new videos for a few months.
I love this job and I don’t want to get to a point where I resent any part of what it involves, so I’ve decided to finish early for Christmas and take a short break. We have a new Omicron variant of Covid that we are still waiting for data to see how that affects the world, and of course, that is putting people off sessions again or making them wary.
And this constant push to get bookings but them not coming has been tough to deal with mentally, it has had a detrimental effect on the customer experience. I’ve been slower and responding to emails, to messages, forgetting to check them etc. And that is awful … that is when I realised I need to rest. I need to take some time to re-energise, to get the excitement back, the focus that is needed to give not 80, 90, 95 or 99% to the experience but a full 100%!
So I have decided that I will start a break for the Christmas period and January (always a tough time as it’s a depressingly long month and no one has any money). I’m still gonna be here, I’m still going to check emails and my phone. I need to break some of the bad habits that are creeping in. So if you want a session in January that would be amazing and you will be very welcome, but I’m not going to be promoting or pushing for them.
I will still be on Twitter, I will still be tweeting and chatting to people but maybe not as much. I will be trying to get the focus on checking my phone more regularly again, but at the moment one of the best ways of getting in touch is to send an email to [email protected].
Other listing sites I’m not going to update as regularly. I’m going to delay the redesign of my website and use that to rebuild my focus.
It’s been a horrendous time, but we will all get through this, I have my booster jab this week and will still be around.
So let’s all get our jabs, do our tests, wear our masks, help to keep everyone safe so we can make 2022 one hell of a kinky year with lots of fun!
So for now, have a Merry Kinkmas, thank you for your custom and support this past year and I look forward to our adventures together in 2022.