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I have been very quiet online the past couple of weeks, I have been super super busy and not had time to spend online. And also the free time I have had I also like to spend relaxing and catching up with friends. Everyone needs time away from work, no matter how much you love it!
Unfortunately June is going to be a very quite month for sessions with incredibly limited availability. The painters and decorators will be in for most of the month, which limits when I am able to see you naughty boys and girls!
Throughout June I won’t have any daytime availability, and limited evenings and weekends.
But July will start with a bang with some new furniture in the Dungeon, new flooring, new gear and plenty of new photo’s.
I have had several people contact me wanting to find out more about me, my services and to get more of an idea of what is available in the Dungeon. There is only so much I can say and do over the phone, and only so much time I can give. So following on from a suggestion from a new client I have brought in my Kinky Coffee service – first things – first it doesn’t have to be coffee, that’s just my preference, it can be any of a selection of hot drinks.
This is an opportunity for you to spend either half hour or an hour with me to get to know me, see the playspace and kit that is available and make a decision on whether or not you would like to book a full session with me.
Or if you just want to meet up with someone to discuss your own kink interests, maybe get some suggestions and tips on how to play kinky at home with your partner or friends. This is a social visit, no play, just a catch up over a brew.
I’ll admit it, I don’t go out too much to the kink / fetish scene in the UK. Sometimes if you spend too much time on Twitter and Instagram etc you can get the impression you are only a real kinkster if you go out on the scene loads. Nothing could be further from the truth! The gay fetish scene really doesn’t cater for all tastes, and unfortunately like most niche markets is very focused on London (particularly if you are the UK’s largest gay fetish site).
But there are pockets of kink and “man spaces” around the country. And one of those spaces is the long established Boltz Club in Birmingham – my local if you will. The Birmingham fetish scene consists of six main events / spaces:
For the UK’s second city (I can hear the screeches of dissent from Manchester already) this may not seem a lot, but what we have works well for us and satisfies many perverts needs!
Boltz has had a few name changes over the years, and has moved location before but it has been where it is now for a good few years now – just on the edge of Birmingham’s Gay village. The small doorway entrance leads to a dark world to explore!
There are several key areas to Boltz, the bar area, one large central bar with some stools and limited seating options and then all the other areas pretty much lead off from here. There is the outdoor smokers space, heaters, tables and seats there, the ‘educational’ cinema, the cruise maze, the cottages / toilets, sling room, glory holes and of course The Bullring. This is a different take on traditional cruise spaces, it seven different themed spaces / rooms: orgy, dungeon, slave, worship, bike, sling, web. I’ll let you discover for yourselves the different rooms – but if you have every wanted to be fucked on or over a motorbike with horny guys watching this is the place to go!
Boltz hold many events throughout the year, fetish nights, gear nights, sportswear etc all catered for. But one of their most popular is Dare2Bare on the first Sunday of the month (3pm – 8pm). There is a strict underwear / naked dress-code and the place gets full, hot, sweaty and can be a lot of fun!
Bolts isn’t just a fetish / fuck club. It’s just a great bar to hang out with your mates in. I’ve had some great afternoons, evenings there with mates passing the time buy enjoying the vibe, music and drinks on offer. And one of the best things are the great bar tenders they have! I’ve been fortunate enough to travel to the USA a lot and some of my favourite bars are there (the SF Eagle is one of them). And in most American bars you get great bar tenders, they are their to serve drinks, make amazing cocktails, host you and help ensure you have a great time. As one said recently in Key West “if you can’t trust your Bar Tender who can you trust?”
Boltz has been one of the few bars I have been in where the guys working the bar keep an eye out for who is waiting to order, and more impressively they remember what you drink! They notice you’ve finished drinking and ask if you want the same round again. Makes you feel appreciated and welcome!
So if you are in Birmingham and fancy exploring the darker side of its gay scene, Boltz is a great place to go! Or if you just fancy a pint and chat get along, the best thing about Boltz is that you can gear up if you want, you can fuck if you want, you can suck dick if you want, you can wank watching others do that, enjoy a cigar in the smoke area, or you can just sit and enjoy a drink. I will definitely be making more use of this place in the future.
For those who wish to explore a longer session, or to have the opportunity to loose yourself in your sub headspace I have introduced ‘Slave for a Day’. This is a full days booking, usually starting around 10am and going on into the evening.
Like all of my sessions there isn’t a set structure to the day, all will be discussed in advance of your visit on how you wish to use the day and what sort of experience you would be looking for.
What would you do with at least 8 hours to spend in the company of a Dom with extensive private Dungeon? What is the fantasy you want to really explore?
Here are some suggestions, but these are only my ideas – what’s your ultimate fantasy to make reality?
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I love suspension! It’s so much fun – and the feeling of total helplessness for the sub is unlike any other.
I am also very lucky to have a dungeon space that is nearly 3m floor to ceiling – so plenty of space to leave you hanging around. I’ve been able to offer various forms of suspension for a while now with wrist and foot suspension and also the Fetters Suspension Harness. So a vertical harness position has been popular and for some upside down the perfect place for them – for others too much of a head fuck.
But what about horizontal – stretched out floating in the air? This requires a lot of space and support for the body, I’ve tried a few ideas but non have thus far worked out … until this week.
I now have a custom suspension harness that was also made by Fetters, but this one has extra padding and support to allow both the usual vertical suspension but also horizontal! And it works so well, I used it with Slave R and he said it was very comfortable.
The positions of the hands can change – down by your side your above your head depending on what is most comfortable or fits the scene best. The head can be supported with a strap, or maybe a tight leather hood, ear plugs and ear defenders for a bit of an sensory deprivation trip?
Using the harness with a sleepsack suspension frame gives lots of support, helps to keep the body flat. And once off the bondage table there is much fun to be had – plugs, estim, violet wand, doxy massager to the cock. And you feel completely helpless!
Next time I think will be fun to try it with the Handlock out front too.
Maybe with the leg spreader at the feet too just to add some extra restraint and loss of control. If you crave that helpless feeling then my Dungeon has lots of fun ways of achieving that. You just have to be careful of what you ask for …